We live in an age where negativity seems to dominate every corner of our lives. Turn on the TV, scroll through social media, or read the news—we're constantly bombarded with negative messages that make it feel like the world is falling apart and everyone hates each other.

But here's the truth: that's not reality.

The Beautiful Reality We're Missing

The reality is that there are countless beautiful people in this world. They're everywhere—in your neighborhood, at your workplace, in coffee shops, and online communities dedicated to positive change. All you have to do is look for them and engage with them.

The problem isn't that good people don't exist. The problem is where we're choosing to focus our attention.

The Art of Counterbalancing Negativity

Let me share a confession: I've been caught in the doom-scrolling trap before. We all have. But I've learned something crucial—the goal isn't to avoid negativity entirely. That's impossible and unrealistic.

The goal is to counterbalance negativity with positivity.

Here's a powerful insight: the opposite of negativity isn't apathy or numbness. It's active positivity. According to research, humans require two positive experiences to counterbalance one negative one. This isn't just feel-good psychology—it's science.

Why We Can't (and Shouldn't) Ignore Challenges

Negativity is impossible to escape completely, and challenges shouldn't be ignored. I deal with my disability every day, and to be honest, many negative emotions come up for me regularly. But I've learned that acknowledging these challenges doesn't mean letting them define my entire experience.

Instead, I focus on being a happy and joyous person by:

• Connecting deeply with my wife, Leslie
• Being present as a father
• Joking around with friends
• Collaborating professionally with inspiring people
• Creating content through writing and video
• Generally choosing to be positive

These aren't just activities—they're intentional choices to counterbalance life's inevitable difficulties.

The Focus Formula That Changes Everything

True focusing is about putting your time, money, and energy into what's going to get you closer to your goals—and not wasting those precious resources on actions that will take you farther from where you want to be.

Here's your practical roadmap:

Spend time on the best parts of your life. What brings you genuine joy? What activities make you feel most alive? Double down on those.

Avoid distractions. This means being intentional about your media consumption, your social interactions, and how you spend your mental energy.

Be nice and give grace to others. When you choose kindness, you're not just helping others—you're rewiring your own brain for positivity.

Lighten up. Life is serious enough without us making everything a crisis. Find reasons to laugh, smile, and play.

Your Mission: Change Your World

Above all else, I challenge you to change your world.

This doesn't mean you need to solve global problems or become a world leader. It means becoming a beacon of light in your own sphere of influence. When you choose positivity, when you focus on what's beautiful and good, when you treat others with kindness—you're literally changing the world, one interaction at a time.

The negativity will always be there. The news will always have something alarming to report. Social media will always have its share of outrage and division.

But you have a choice.

You can be another voice adding to the noise, or you can be a beacon of light that helps others see the beauty that's been there all along.

The world needs your light. Don't dim it because of what you see in the darkness.

What positive action will you take today to counterbalance the negativity around you? Share this post with someone who needs to hear this message, and let's create a ripple effect of positivity together.