I recently watched Crip Camp on Netflix. The documentary was about disabled people in the 1970s and 1980s. It featured the life and the political activism. They were fighting for the rights that I have now. I knew that the Americans With Disabilities Act was fairly young. However, I did not realize that it was only the generation before me who made my amazing life easier.

 I was born in 1977 and, in 5th grade, I was mainstreamed into a public school where I was the first person in a wheelchair in the district. Throughout high school, I was provided with an assistant and had a robust social life. When I entered college, I had access to a whole department dedicated to students with disabilities. I was provided accommodations for classes and tests. When I go out on the town, the last thing on my mind is whether or not there will be ramps or even if I can use the restroom.

 The United States made an important decision that disabled people will be included in life. It’s...

After a mother saw an interview with me, she messaged me and said that even though she appreciates the work that I do, my message does not apply to her son who has a cognitive disability. Her expectations for her son were not realistic. The best advice that I gave her was to readjust her expectations. Otherwise, she would not find peace and happiness.

This got me thinking about my own life and the pandemic. All my life, I have dreamed of what my life would look like if I was not disabled. I would dream of speaking without a speech impediment, driving a car, hiking in Hawaii, giving my kids piggyback rides, and more.  Some of these activities are adventurous and some are downright mundane. Oftentimes, I was paralyzed by this idea of perfection. Even when my life was amazing, I said to myself: “This could be so much better if I was not in this body.”  Although I still have my moments, my number one goal is to make my life amazing. 

 Due to the pandemic,...

One of the most important goals that I have is raising my sons, Andrew and Tyler, who are 6 and 5 respectively. As any parent, I want them to do well in school, experience life, have extracurricular activities, have fun, and have the skills necessary to excel in life. As their father, my job is to support and facilitate these goals. Before the pandemic hit, they were involved in many activities including karate, soccer, and piano. 

As we all are dealing with the coronavirus, our job as parents has evolved and has become more intense. Before the pandemic, parents relied on teachers, coaches, or even family members to get involved in helping our kids grow. This responsibility has now been thrust more on the parents. In addition, we are all learning how to deal with this amazing situation. It’s easy to enter into survival mode.

One of the keys to success is to be engaged in our goals. This included being more engaged in our kids' lives, especially during these tough times....

The Great Reset

Our lives have slowed down because of the coronavirus. We have the opportunity to reset the way we go about our lives, the way we deal with others, develop new habits, be kinder towards others, and decide how we want to live the rest of our lives. One excuse for not going after our goals is lack of time. That excuse has been dampened by these times. Simultaneously, there is much panic and angst during this pandemic.

The way you act in these times can position yourself in the future. Your actions today will determine your success tomorrow. As James Clear writes about, your life is a lagging indicator of your habits. If you want to improve your life in the future, you have to start living as someone who is already successful.

Other people are watching you right now. They watch how you handle situations. They watch how calm you are. They watch how you complain. If you want to do business, hang out with them, or even date, you must start by showing them that you...

Why We Should Not Try to Overcome the Coronavirus

As we are dealing with the coronavirus, we are starting to turn our attention to what life will look like in the coming months or even years. A misnomer is that we are going to overcome this crisis. We are going to deal with the aftermath of this virus for decades or even generations.  This does not mean that life won’t feel normal, or even be better. This only means that life will change and it’s up to us to embrace the change, work with reality, and do our part to improve our lives and the lives of others. 

I don’t believe we overcome most challenges. I believe we deal with challenges. I was born with a disability and speak with a severe speech impediment. I understood that my disability would not go away and that I would not overcome it. I started to look at other people and other challenges and saw that, in most cases, people deal with challenges, but do not overcome them. The only challenge...

There are universal principles of success that can be applied in every situation. For almost two decades, I have been studying, hypothesizing, writing, and speaking about the principles of success. Although every situation is different, what’s not different are the principles. The principles of growing a company are the same as dealing with a disability. The same principles of raising kids are the same as losing a few pounds.

 We have a brand new challenge. Success is partly defined by the application of these principles.  I want to give you a framework to apply some of the principles to deal with the coronavirus.

Working with Reality

There are two parts of reality itself and there is your reaction to reality. Success comes with the positive reaction to reality. The reality that we are in this amazing and tough situation. To be honest, it really sucks. If you fight reality, you will lose. Accepting reality is very important in any kind of situation. If you...

With the pandemic called the coronavirus, many people are working remotely.  Unfortunately, many of the traditional advice is not applicable such as working from a café.  Working from home has its advantages, but it also has some unique challenges. I have been working from home for almost 20 years.  I was born with cerebral palsy which has left me in a wheelchair with a severe speech impediment. I also need help typing long form articles, blog posts, and books.  Back in college, my dream was to work in the middle of downtown Los Angeles or the west side of Los Angeles. I realized that I needed a working environment that was conducive to my disability.  I work from home and part of my team I physically work with, but most of my team I work with virtually. We use messaging and video calls. Productivity at home has its own unique challenges. These challenges need to be understood and dealt with especially for those that work from home for the very first...

 Mindset is the way we go after our goals, think about life, and deal with challenges. In these trying times, we have to adjust our mindset. Simultaneously, we have to keep living our lives and working towards our goals. We cannot ignore the unique situation that we are facing.  I always thought of mindset in five areas. Those areas are rewriting your narrative, improving your habits, dealing with challenges, engaging with your fellow human beings, and being clear about your goals and next steps. I want to look at mindset in these five terms. There are two categories of mindset that I want to address in each area. The first is directly related to dealing with the impact of this pandemic, and the second is how to position ourselves for success during this crisis and beyond. Another element of mindset is the mindset of your unique situation. If you are in a business where the impact has caused you to lose your job, it’s going to be different than a person who has the...

As most of the world locks down because of the pandemic called the corona virus, people are changing their lives like never before. I live in California, outside of Los Angeles, and the governor put the state on lock down.

I was born with severe cerebral palsy. I’m in a wheelchair and speak with a severe speech impediment. For most of my life, my body and my disability put me in lock down. One of the concepts that I often think, write, or speak about is that limitations can lead to opportunity if you know how to exploit them. In order to take advantage of your limitations, you need to know how to do so. It takes a very progressive and positive mindset.

Note- I’m not implying that having a disability is a blessing or you should not be scared or upset about the threat that this virus has caused. I also don’t want you to get upset about the everyday comforts of life. In fact, I want you to take 30 seconds to get upset. I will hold on. Let me get you started. I miss...

My second book is called Big Dreams Take Small Sacrifices. The premise is, if you want to achieve any kind of goals or big dream, it takes consistent small sacrifices. Also, I define sacrifice as a payment for a dream. The bigger the dream, the more effort or sacrifice that you have to put into your dream. 

Right now, the world has one of the biggest dreams possible. That dream is to get through the COVID-19, commonly known as the coronavirus, pandemic. In order to accomplish that dream, we all have to make the sacrifices necessary in order to return to life before this pandemic hit.

Leaders need to lead, and everybody has to do their part. The bigger the dream, the more sacrifices it needs. We must sacrifice today’s inconvenience in order to live life as we did before.  Leaders need to define exactly what needs to be done and we all must follow suit. A leader can be defined as a parent setting family rules or civic leaders setting public policy.

One challenge that...