How To Change Your Habits

blog Apr 30, 2019

Wouldn’t it be amazing if you could change your habits as easily as you change your clothes? I believe that most people want to do the right thing and live an amazing life. Unfortunately, changing your habits is challenging because you have your narrative, feelings, the people around you, your subconscious, and other factors that get in the way.

If you want an amazing life you have to have a regimen of activities. Those activities need to be executed often. The way we accomplish our goals is the replication of habits and routines. You must have the mindset of amazing habits and routines. It takes a while adopt a new positive habit. I am not a believer in 100 percent changing your habits. If you eat healthy for 100 days or 200 days or even two years, you still might be tempted by unhealthy food. There are people who are sober for two decades, and suddenly start drinking again. In fact, they never lose the urge to drink. There are some habits that will be easy to change, and...

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Intentions vs. Reality

blog Apr 14, 2019

Intentions vs. Reality

Most people have great intentions. We intend to be happy, work hard, and live an amazing life. However, intentions are not always reality. We let feelings get in the way of reality and an amazing life. Very few people intend to sabotage themselves. Nobody intends to break a New Year’s diet in the first week of January. Nobody intends to sabotage their marriage.

Gratification

Human beings seek gratification. Part of having disciplined habits is being able to understand that positive habits don’t pay off right away and negative habits pay off almost immediately. For example, putting a cookie in your mouth, taking a sip of a cocktail after work, or turning on the television is immediately satisfying. On the other hand, going to the gym, reading a book, or any other positive habits take time to reap rewards. If you go to the gym and eat healthy, you might not see any results for a couple of weeks. You may even feel sore after the first few workouts or...

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Feelings and Habits

blog Apr 14, 2019

When people set goals, they are excited. However, when people are working on their goals, they have other feelings that can get in the way. A person who wants to lose weight does not always feel like going to the gym. A person who wants to improve their relationship may not feel like having a tough conversation. Every goal has activities that a person does not feel like doing. With regards to habits, these feelings can get in the way and can block out positive intentions.

Mel Robbins writes in her book The 5 Second Rule:

We like to think that we use logic or consider our goals when we make decisions but that’s not the case. According to neuroscientist Antonio Damasio, it’s our feelings that decide for us 95% of the time. You feel before you think. You feel before you act. As Damasio puts it, human beings are “feeling machines that think” not “thinking machines that feel.” And that’s how you ultimately make decisions–based on how you...

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Let's Get Real About Habits

blog Apr 06, 2019

One of the reasons that success is so challenging is because it’s hard to develop and sustain positive habits. I have written many times that if you want to become amazing, you have to have amazing habits and routines. I wholeheartedly agree with that sentiment. However, it’s not as simple as a decision to develop positive habits and routines. There is the narrative that you have about life, social pressures, doubts, fears, other feelings, and neurological factors. These are not excuses to give into negative habits. This is meant to empower you to take control of your amazing success and your habits.

Breaking bad habits and installing positive habits can lead you to amazing success. As a disclosure, I struggle with my habits and I am obsessed with amazing success.

Many habits happen automatically without us thinking about it. They happen in the basal ganglia part of the brain. If the brain sees a pattern, it wants to be more efficient. So, you act without thinking about...

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Accomplishing Priorities

blog Mar 30, 2019

There is a big difference between defining your priorities and taking the necessary steps to actually accomplish your goals. The more congruent your priorities actually are, the more likely you are to accomplish your goals. Amazing people clearly define their priorities and have actions that are congruent with their goals. There are people who say, “one day I am going to open a company” or “on Monday I’m going on a diet.”

The first step is actually sitting down and defining what you want to accomplish professionally, personally, spiritually, financially, and beyond. This is not a wish list or a “someday I will get to my goals” list. This is a list to start today.

After you define what you want in the four buckets of priorities- professional, personal, growth, and miscellaneous- what are the critical tasks that need to be done on a consistent basis? For the professional goals, write down the tasks that need to be accomplished. Under the...

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Focus Your Mind on Amazing

blog Mar 09, 2019

Focusing on your priorities is a mindset issue. The people who are amazing have an intense focus on amazing. The opposite of priorities are distractions. Distractions may be social media, phone alerts, and anything that diverts attention from your priorities. Priorities and distractions are not straight forward. For example, when you are home, you can be distracted by a work call. During the day, you can be distracted with a personal call.

Every goal requires its own dedicated time, energy, and money. Focusing on amazing requires not being distracted from the goal. It’s also executing on every single step. When I am working, my priorities are communicating with my team and writing. One of the activities is writing. When I write, it’s me, my office manager, Jamila, and some music.

In a perfect world, distractions pop up and need to be attended to. If you are working on a project for work and you or a family member get sick, then your priority should change to deal with...

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Grow Yourself and Your Goals

blog Mar 09, 2019

An often overlooked priority is growing ourselves as human beings. This can be in terms of professional development, personal development, challenging our narrative, spiritual development, or getting over a mental block. Examples of this could be attending a conference, physical exercise, and other activities. It can even be improving our habits or setting new goals. At some point or another, we fall into a routine that is comfortable. If you are not conscious, then personal growth can be overlooked or even ignored. If you want an amazing life, then personal growth needs to be a priority.

One issue is that when you become busy and overwhelmed with other priorities, personal growth can be the easiest to put off. It’s easy to say, “I can’t go the gym because my kids need me,” or “I have no time to read because I am on a deadline.” Other examples of growth can be meditation, attending religious services, basically anything that indirectly helps you...

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Focus on the Miscellaneous

blog Mar 08, 2019

There are activities that don’t really fit into the other buckets. However, if you don’t execute on these activities then your life will not run smoothly. Examples can include putting gas in your car, paying bills, calling customer service, going to the doctor, etc. Although these are necessary activities, we often ignore them and don’t treat them like priorities. When we don’t treat them like priorities they linger and get in the way of more important tasks.

In each bucket, there are tasks that we don’t feel excited to do. A chef turned restauranteur has to make sure that the restaurant is clean and be attentive to hundreds of pedestrian tasks that need to be executed. Conventional wisdom says that you should love what you do all the time. Let’s face it, there are priorities that a person is not going to always be excited about. A loving couple with young children must spend time coordinating schedules and other tasks that are necessary for the...

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Prioritize You

blog Mar 01, 2019

We all have obligations on the home front. These priorities can be tending to our family, spending time with our friends, family, and loved ones. It can even be spending time on our hobbies or taking a vacation. These priorities are meant to enhance our lives and our professional life serves as a way to support our personal goals.

In order to meet our personal goals, we have to be clear on who we want to spend time with and how we want to support them. My immediate family includes my wife, Leslie, and my two beautiful boys, Andrew and Tyler. When I am with them, they are my priority. My time with them includes helping them become who they need to be in order to succeed. I also have long dinners with friends and often go out of town on trips with my friends. One of my core values having personal amazing experiences. I’m constantly making that clear to myself.

Our personal lives include taking on priorities and activities that are just for us. Priorities may include what we do...

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Be Clear, Be Professional, Be Amazing

blog Feb 22, 2019

To achieve amazing success, you have to be focused on your priorities and not be distracted by things that don’t help you achieve your goals. Clarity is a major component of this mindset.

There are four buckets of activities that are important to focus on in order to live out a balanced and amazing life. These buckets are professional, personal, growth, and miscellaneous. One of the goals in each is to set priorities and not get distracted on the way to amazing success. The better that you produce the results in each bucket the more grounded you will be. Be on the look out for upcoming blogs covering each of the buckets as well as how to have the right mindset in order to prioritize. In this blog, let’s focus on the “Professional” bucket.

We all have professional activities that we need to consistently execute. The better you do your job, the more likely you are to excel professionally. Every profession has its own set of activities that need to be...

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