I want to give you two quick and powerful ideas.
I absolutely love creating content, writing, and developing frameworks. However, I haven’t been writing very much. I’ve been working on business development, marketing, and sales.
Oftentimes, what we need to do is not what we want to do. Put your focus on what you need to do today to get your life on the right trajectory.
In the book, The Daily Stoic, Ryan Holiday tells a story about Charles Schwab who often took interviewees to a restaurant for breakfast. Unbeknownst to the interviewee, Schwab would have the manager intentionally mess up the order. The point of this exercise was to determine how the potential new hire would react to adversity.
Success is not about how you react to good times. It’s about how you act in not so good times. Every single challenge or every single tiff should not derail your day or derail your...
I just had two amazing adventures. First, I spent the week in Hawaii with my extended family. Then I went to the Dodger game where I witnessed Tyler Anderson take a no-hitter into the ninth inning.
In order for me to take part in these experiences I have to first travel through the San Fernando Valley. If I want to get to the beaches of Hawaii, I have to go through the Valley. I can go another route, or technically, I guess I can take a private plane. If I want to get to Dodger Stadium, the most direct route takes me through the Valley. To get to some of the best times of my life, I first to go through the Valley.
This year, I have been thinking a lot about how most successful journeys are filled with unbelievable challenges that you will not even think about. Plus, my disability presents even a couple of more layers of challenges. For example, when I’m at home everything is sent up for my needs. When I travel, I need even...
Find people and interact with them so that you can live an amazing life. We are all interdependent on ideas, and strategies, and we can’t achieve success by ourselves.
The learning process and the feedback loop involve emulating others and getting advice.
Being a good recruiter and being able to positively interact with others is one of the most important skills that you can have.
We can pay attention to our dreams or we can pay attention to our challenges.
We can pay attention to our past or we can pay attention to what we need to do for our future.
We can pay attention to how people did us wrong or we can pay attention to improving our relationships.
Achieving success is about giving the right focus to what we need to do to improve our lives.
There is a difference between knowledge and wisdom. Knowledge is learning about a specific event or history or a specific skill. We learn how to tie our shoes (bad example from someone who can’t), learn how to do a job, learn how to navigate a new city, learn the rules of a new sport, learn what our friends like for their birthday or anything needed to live out the day. We all need knowledge to live our lives.
Wisdom on the other hand is more universal. Wisdom can be described as a life philosophy that can be used in most situations. Wisdom can be used in decision making in relationships and any career. Wisdom takes more discipline to implement and more maturity.
Wisdom has principles that people live by. Principles are universal. Learning wisdom and principles can make your life fulfilling. It can also be a tool for understanding and gaining knowledge.
Throughout time, many philosophers including Epictetus, Seneca, and the...
Challenges are just a part of life.
If you really get to know any successful person, their story is filled with ups, downs, and unbelievable obstacles that you cannot imagine. One of the cornerstones of success is just having the bandwidth to deal with any obstacles in your way. Just like an athlete needs to have physical endurance, anybody that wants to go after their dreams needs to have emotional endurance.
Whenever I read or learn about somebody’s journey to success, I’m always inspired by their challenges that they had to deal with. You would think that this would be discouraging. However, it’s nice to know that everybody goes through challenges.
Develop your own sense of emotional endurance.
There is a difference between getting stuck dealing with day-to-day obligations or challenges and dealing with the challenges that will get you to amazing success.
Rise above everyday challenges and deal with challenges that will have more payoff.
When I started writing I assumed that I needed to be honest by sharing every single thought and every single emotion. But, now I realize that I can be nuanced with my words and convey my message without airing out all my feelings.
With the abundance of communication tools and ways to instantly publish, it’s easy to express every single emotion, every single time. When we are cut off on the freeway or encounter a rude person, it’s easy to text our loved ones or even post it on social media.
Before smartphones, we had a cooling off period where we could honestly put everything into perspective, and most of the time after assessing our initial emotions we realize that the situation or offense was not that bad.
But now some people want to air out all their prostrations and all their dirty laundry in front of others to see. This can be unhealthy because what you put out in the world matters. You attract what you put out in the world. There are...
Let’s face it, most people are not going after an amazing life.
Many would rather engage in distractions that don’t get them very far or even be detrimental.
Success takes work. And, oftentimes the work needed to succeed is boring, tedious, frustrating, scary, and other negative emotions. The brain is a very defensive organ that wants to protect us from threats and discomfort. So, instead of focusing on the challenges ahead, we distract ourselves by taking actions that make us feel good in the moment rather than put us back on a more productive path. This is one of the challenges that every successful person takes. Examples of this can be focusing on other’s flaws rather than focusing on our own. Wishing life would be different than changing our own lives. Putting the main focus on something else rather than laying out next steps. Re-litigating the past instead of accepting,...
I have been studying personal development for over twenty years. Recently, I wanted to understand human behavior and how it affects success. I have found that it’s easier to embrace natural human tendencies rather than go against them. When you go against human nature and human tendencies you are adding one more layer of challenges. The goal should be not to work harder than you need to. The goal is to be as efficient as possible because you want to save your energy for bigger and bigger goals or just to ultimately enjoy life.
A couple of weeks ago, I took my first trip in two years and it was amazing. I have a disability and COVID added a couple more layers to my life. The most tangible example is putting on and, more importantly, keeping on a mask. Even though it’s challenging for anybody, it was more challenging for me. If the mask falls off, I need help getting it reattached to my face. Basically, it is one more thing I need help to do which is emotionally taxing for me.
I was never comfortable enough to travel during the height of COVID because it just felt unsafe. However, recently, I began to feel that now it was time. Although the last two years were challenging, it feels like we have turned the corner. It was nice to see people, be close to them, and not worry. Instead of being frustrated about what was taken from us, I was just grateful that we got it back.
It was nice to be in a group, talk to others, and just be.
I was reminded that...