This month couples all over celebrate Valentine’s Day. In order to have positive relationships, you must keep developing the most important relationship in your life. That is the relationship you have with yourself.
Life is about knowing what you want, why you want it, navigating challenges, growing yourself, and other factors. If you don’t have a positive and healthy relationship with yourself, you limit yourself on how far you can go in life. Furthermore, the narrative in your life can either propel you or hold you back.
Another factor that can influence our relationship with our self is how much blame we put on ourselves versus the outside world. If someone has a weak locus of control, they assume that whatever happens is not their fault. However, if someone has a strong locus of control, they take personal responsibility and look within to either solve problems or excel.
Next, it’s about hanging out with yourself. In order to have a healthy...
We all have a computer in our pockets. That computer is called a cell phone. The cell phone revolutionized communication. If you use it in the right way, you can increase productivity and even make money. It also allows people to be mobile and free. On the flip side, it has become one of the most distracting elements in our lives. According to 60 Minutes, app developers employ the same technology to keep us using our phones as slot machine manufacturers. They are incentivized to keep us on our phones.
I have a unique relationship with my phone. My physical challenges prevent me from interacting with my phone like others. Most things in my life are more challenging for me, and using the phone is amongst the laundry list of challenging activities in my life. Besides the effort it takes to use my phone, I’m very limited on the tasks I can perform. I can make phone calls. I can skim text and emails. I can also check sports’ scores. Beyond that, I...
I grew up and still live in a Los Angeles suburb. I am also a huge Laker fan. Kobe Bryant was the first athlete who came into the NBA younger than I was. So, I was saddened by the loss of Kobe and his daughter, Gianna. I watched his whole career both on and off the court.
Part of my process as a writer is to study the mindset of successful people and, since I love sports, I often look to athletes and want to understand their mindset and how they go about being elite.
Kobe Bryant definitely had a unique mindset and it safe to say that it was next level. In fact, there was even a name for his mindset that he gave himself- Mamba Mentality. Mamba Mentality was truly unique to Kobe Bean Bryant.
Here are just a few examples of the Mamba Mentality.
Kobe always had a vision of what he wanted and why he wanted it. He simply wanted to be the best that he could be and he didn’t want anything to get in the way. Instead of living in Beverly Hills or the...
This is the last week of the month. It’s the fourth week of the decade. When we start the year, we are excited to accomplish our goals. Whether that is professional, personal, relationships, hobbies, fitness, or any other type of goals, we are excited. The first part of our goals is fueled by excitement. However, as we start working on our goals, that excitement ebbs and flows. We have to battle the War of Attrition.
The War of Attrition
As human beings, we always like something new. Our goals seem like shiny new toys. However, most goals require constant and repetitive action. Some of these actions may get boring, frustrating, or just tedious. The first couple of times that you eat that salad you might feel emboldened, but, after the tenth, the twentieth, or even the hundredth time, you may resent eating healthy. Treating your goals as your job is very important. You have to take your goals and your dreams very seriously.
Considering the Alternative
One powerful method to make your goals real is to actually write them down or document them. This will take your goals and make them more tangible. It also can give you a roadmap to look at and track progress. While writing down your goals, you will come up with more ideas, rather than just pulling ideas out of the air. If you work with other people, it will show them a roadmap and ways they can help you. It simply makes your goals more tangible.
Over the winter break, I wrote down all my goals and put them into a nice presentation. As I was putting the plan into place, I thought of many more steps. It allowed me to get excited about accomplishing them because I had a visual and tangible map that I could follow. It also gave my team more clarity on the next steps.
The document will also serve as a source of motivation and inspiration. Let’s face it. When you start working on your goals, you will experience feelings of boredom, frustration, apathy, and other...
One of the principals at the Sourena V. Group is Chris Stevenson. He presents on stage with me and also takes my content and puts it on video. In addition, he also speaks internationally about customer service and the fitness business. He’s been a serial entrepreneur for over two decades. Lastly, he is one of my best friends. We have so much fun together.
Once a week he writes a newsletter. This is one of my favorites.
One of the reasons I like this is because we have similar views on what it takes to become amazing.
Welcome to 2020! To kick off the new year correctly, I thought it was appropriate to share some thoughts in the area of new year's resolutions. You often hear people say resolutions don't work. While you could argue both sides, I would say that the real issue isn't about resolutions, it is that change in general. Change is hard because we often approach it the wrong way. The new year hits, we are motivated and...
20/20 Clarity For 2020
We have embarked on a new decade. We want to welcome the new decade with clarity and a way to reach amazing success. When many people start a new year, they set resolutions. These resolutions are a wish list of goals that they would like to have materialize. Without consistent actions, you will have a challenging time achieving what you want in life. One of the keys of mindset is getting clarity on what you want to do, why you want to do it, the challenges involved, the people you need to help you, the habits needed, and the next steps. No matter how big or how pedestrian your goals or dreams are, the clearer you are, and the better mindset you have, the more likely you are to achieve your goals.
What do you want to do?
The question of what do you want to do is simple, yet, complex. We all have desires and wishes, but it takes clarity to turn the wishes into concrete goals. If you ask most people what they want out of life, you will hear answers such as...
Joy is something that we have to constantly infuse in our lives. Since the human brain is not wired to be happy part of our job and habits is to be conscious of the joys and blessings in our lives.
Every day we are faced with situations that we can interpret as blessings. Likewise, every day we are faced with situations that can ruin our day. For example, minute by minute, I can lament everything that I can’t do. My disability makes most activities exponentially more challenging. Activities such as eating, typing, using my phone, using the restroom, and getting around are taxing. Everything would be easier if I didn’t have a stupid little disability. Even the blessings in my life would be so much better if I could do what others do. In the past, I used to spend countless hours wondering about how my life would play out if I were not disabled.
I am learning how to as Brendon Burchard says, “honor the struggle” and "bring the joy” into my life. This does...
Perhaps the purpose of life is to find joy and happiness. What’s the point of having an amazing life without joy and happiness? After you achieve them for yourself, it’s time to bring joy and happiness to others.
People often assume that achieving goals will bring them happiness and joy. Statements such as “when I have a million dollars, I will be happy,” or “when I meet the love of my life, I will be happy,” or “when I have kids, I will be happy,” or “when I get to travel the world, I will be happy,” are often said when people talk about joy and happiness.
Limitations and challenges are often seen as obstacles to happiness. People tend to look at their limitations and see gray skies; however, behind every gray sky is an infinite amount of sunshine.
Wherever you are in life, you have to find a way to be happy. There have been periods of my life when I was not happy, and I blamed my lack of happiness on...
Mindset is critical in achieving our goals. Mindset is the way we go after goals, deal with challenges, deal with others, and so on. Mindset also touches every aspect of our lives. There are five keys to develop an amazing mindset. Also, mindset is not binary. It’s something that keeps evolving and changes over time. If you want to reach amazing success, change your mindset.