In early 2020 we heard rumblings and stories about the coronavirus. We had no idea of what to do with the information. However, two years ago in March, we all had to face reality. Around March 10th, which is my wife’s birthday, it all hit home. We had to face reality. There was a pandemic.
Story after story made this pandemic real. In no particular order, Tom hanks tested positive, the first NBA player tested positive after mocking the reporters, the league then postponed the season. This all culminated with the shutdown.
Personally, I went to the Apple store and saw that it was almost empty. My family cancelled a Persian New Year celebration. I was planning to go watch my friend speak in San Diego, which got cancelled. My sons were planning to go to school online.
For the first few months, we were all in a haze. We did not know what we could and could not do. We were spaying down everything. Every time I would...
My disability provides many minute-to-minute challenges in my life. There are some activities I can’t do without help. There are some activities that take me more energy. There are some activities that take more time and more money.
I always felt awkward calling my life hard. I have amazing people in my life. I grew up and live in a bustling part of California. I have never experienced hunger, abuse, rejection, and other hardships in my life.
The word “hard” implies that something is complicated, cumbersome, and limiting. The word “challenge” has a slightly different connotation. It means something that you can take on, something that has more of a path, something that has rewards at the end. So often human beings mistake hard with challenging. When you assume something is hard, you assume that it will stop you. When you assume that something is challenging, it’s easier to...
There are so many ways that people describe going after your dreams. Chase your dreams. Finding your truth. Living out your purpose. The world is a playground. Most of the way people describe their dreams and the way you go after them is to describe what you want and somehow it will come true. However, a more realistic approach is to follow your dreams.
Life is like a negotiation. You have some idea of what you want and if you are willing to listen, or do the necessary research, you can find out what you need to do in order to accomplish your goals. It is not wise to unilaterally decide what you are going to do, make vague assumptions and think that is all that is necessary to get to your goals. Any goal you have someone else has accomplished or at least some version of it.
Follow your dreams does not mean that you ask the universe exactly what you want and somehow a magical path will reveal itself. The path will reveal...
As a sports fanatic, whenever there is a Super Bowl, I usually pay most of my attention to the game. This year, the Super Bowl was in my hometown of Los Angeles. I’m a Seahawks fan; so, the Rams are my rival.
I like music, but I never considered myself to be a music connoisseur. However, this year, I was excited to watch the halftime show.
Growing up in the 80s and 90s and being a West Coast kid, I enjoyed all the performers at the halftime show. To make a long story short, the halftime show blew me away. It was better than I could have ever imagined.
It blew any expectations out of the water.
This made me think about exceeding expectations. In our own lives, others have expectations of us, and if you want to be amazing, your performance simply needs to exceed what others expect from you. When you do this, others will notice and give you bigger and bigger opportunities.
Next, I always say that without the ordinary, you cannot be...
Most of the time, success happens when nobody is watching. Nobody is judging. Nobody is seeing what you are doing. It’s up to you to do the activities that most people are not willing to do. It’s up to you to stay motivated and stay on course.
I have been working on a writing project for a month and a half and at times it feels tedious- because it is. However, progress feels slow, but when I look back at the whole thing, I see that I have come far. Progress can feel slow, but push through and keep doing the work.
Healthy encouragement is one of the most underestimated influences for our life journey. Thankfully, encouragement is everywhere if you know what to look for:
We often rely on family for emotional support and advice. However, it is not true that those closest to us can always encourage us in the right way. Even the most heartfelt advice and encouragement from family will be colored by their own mindset, biases and flaws. They also have their own ways of dealing with challenges that may sound great to them, but simply do not apply to your own struggles. Without understanding this, we risk mistaking a shoulder to lean on with good advice and encouragement.
I am blessed to have an amazing family. My parents made their family a true priority, supplying everything my sister and I needed. They never acted like my situation was an impediment and we even went to places like Santa Barbara and Disneyland. As I grew up, they supported my transition from a school for the...
Our lives flick from one conversation to another. Chats with friends, family, colleagues and acquaintances – it all matters. After all, the right conversation with the right person could be the difference between success and failure.
The thing is, when our goals change, we sometimes forget to start new conversations as well. Worse, when many people discuss their future goals, they do it with a passive aggressive or complaining tone. They gloomily imply that life is unfair, or they lack opportunities, and that’s why they’re unsuccessful. By comparison, listening to successful people can be intoxicating because they talk with a tone of empowerment and personal responsibility. The only complaint they have is that they didn’t act sooner.
When I was 20, I decided to go to USC. I wanted to meet people and have experiences. Burdened by my disabilities, I knew this was a big risk and my rationale sounded a bit foolish at the time. But it turned out my brain...
I usually like to kick off each New Year by writing about achieving your goals. Everyone has something to say about the dreaded “New Year’s Resolution,” but I want to go a different way.
This post will bring together five of my biggest ideas shared over the past few months. These ideas aren’t antagonistic to the garden-variety New Year’s Resolution concept. They are meant to be complimentary to the conventional wisdom and strengthen your mental foundation to maximize any decisions you make in 2022.
I picked these ideas because they reflect some of the best lessons I learned during my big and bold business moves this year. Top amongst them is that instead of making a wish list, I deployed the process of analyzing if I was ready to make real changes to my life. I’m happy to say this approach generated enormous value, so let’s dig into the details:
For the last couple of months, I have been getting ready for some exciting, new changes in my business. We are going to launch a new website and new programs next year. I decided to make some organizational changes so I can focus on something I love- creating content.
In this, my last post of 2021, I want to share with you a few tactical ideas to start the new year right. Instead of frantically setting goals around the first of the year, be intentional about your goals. Traditionally, this is a time where people change their focus from being dedicated to working on their goals to enjoying the holidays. However, instead of totally disengaging from your work, spend a little time just planning for next year.
This does not have to be a long process that takes hours and hours. You don’t need a personal manifesto. You don’t even need to break out spreadsheets. Make it an enjoyable process. Take time to journal for...
Every year at Thanksgiving, I write about gratitude. When I first started this trend, each post listed everything I was grateful for. But my understanding of gratitude has since evolved. I now believe gratitude is a guiding principle for success, not just a feel-good concept.
As time ticks by, I learn a bit more about my disability and how to navigate its many challenges. The world wants me to concentrate on all my challenges at the same time. After all, how can I ignore a disobedient hand, a speech impediment, needing help with daily activities, or any other challenge. Just like people should not ignore chest pains, my car’s check engine light, the call from a schoolteacher, an awkward silence from someone I love and, I don’t know… a pandemic. But worrying about every negative thing is a rotten way to live. It diminishes my trust in others, creates unnecessary enemies and ultimately causes me to miss out on amazing opportunities.
Only by using gratitude as...