Exactly twenty years ago, I was in community college, and I was in my first official funk. At that age any funk is devastating, and you think it is the end of the world. I must admit that I thought this funk which seems so small now seemed like a serious crisis to my twenty-year -old self.
For the first time I wondered if my disability was a hindrance to my dreams. Here I was witnessing friends and other people my age, transition into adulthood. They were experiencing new freedoms such as driving a car, working, dating, and traveling without your parents.
And me? Well, I made a limiting assumption that I could not move out of my parents’ house or partake in other activities associated with people in their early twenties because I could not ask other people to help me. I did not just let my fears stop there. Oh no, I extrapolated these fears onto my entire life. Would I ever get married? Would I ever work? Would I ever be able to live like...
Motivation is a big part of an amazing life and success. However, there are challenges, limitations, bad days, problems, and a slew of other factors that get in the way of amazing success. Motivation is often about the big picture and looking at what will happen in the future. It’s like a shot of caffeine. It makes you feel good in the moment, but oftentimes when we are faced with the smallest of challenges or just an inconvenience we let that sap our motivation. It can be something as small as a rude cashier, traffic, a long line, or a tiff with a friend.
One of the goals should be to stay on track and not let these small issues get in the way of productivity. There is a difference between looking at these instances as a nuisance rather than occurrences that could ruin your day. We all have nuisances in our lives, but amazing people just leave it as nuisances rather than letting them get in the way of productivity and happiness.
Confusicious was wrong when he said do what you love and you will not to work a day in your life. Work is one facet of a fulfilling life and regardless of your love for your profession, there will always be aspects that you’d rather avoid. Finding time for joy
In all fairness it’s a different world than anything Confusicious may have imagined; a world that comes with an unprecedented level of competition for our psyches, a war over our focus. With the human attention span still lingering in the same general arena of a small fish, the challenge to stay present has never been more daunting. This constant buzz for our eyes, ears…and cash is not what we’re wired for.
While there’s incredible opportunity in our new access to the world around us, there’s also the ever-present danger of losing ourselves in melee of life.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”...
Knowing what we react to is the first step in strengthening our resolve- Figuring out what we should react to is how we actually get back our control.
We are bombarded by so much noise, Facebook, texts, alerts on our phones, incoming tweets and most of these take away from our best intentions. Control is fleeting, we get glimpses of it throughout the day, grabbing those moments is what separates the successful people from the utterly disappointed.
Recording a plan and staying faithful to it is one of the best ways I’ve found to stay connected with myself and with my fundamental intentions.
These are my 5 steps to maintain sanity and keep my goals in the forefront of my own ever-distracted mind:
1. Have learning objectives.
2. Take time each week or each day to reflect on what you need to do to take you to the next level.
3. Take time to journal what you do right. What can you improve? And, what are the actionable steps that you can take to get there?
4. What resources are you...
Many of us grew up watching our parents. For some of us that meant hearing our parents complain about life. It meant listening to them complain about their jobs, the economy, or the government. Not only did we hear and listen to complaining. We were also witnesses. We were witnesses to the difficulties of adult life. We witnessed parents and other adults struggle. And, thus, they knew that the struggle was real.
These difficulties, struggles, and the way with which they were dealt are foundational to who we are and the lens through which we view life. It tells us whether or not life is fair. It tells us about our destiny, the kind of life we will live, and the ceiling of our potential. Ultimately, it becomes an important factor as we form our own narrative about our own lives. Hopefully, the narrative that is created is one that is positive and lays a solid foundation from which one can launch a successful adult life. Unfortunately, this is often the case. And, one must be...
Ah, thinking. It is a simple act of generating and processing one’s thoughts. It can be a creative process. It can be an analytical process. It may require solitude. Or, perhaps, sometimes it is more fruitful as a group activity. Regardless of the process, it is the act of being contemplative that allows us to grow, develop, and ultimately move closer to achieving our goals.
The majority of my professional life is spent coming up with unique concepts around dreaming and creating an amazing life. I’m always thinking about what I can provide the world and how my unique circumstances can teach others how to be amazing. Bottom line is I need time to think, and if you were to look at my routine I might look like a bum.
I completely get why you would think you would look at me and say to yourself, “See that man there? Now, that’s a bum if I have ever seen one.” Afterall, I take many trips with my friends where all we do is hang out and have drinks....
Ahh… it’s that time of year again. It’s time for our annual family trip to the sand, the waves, the sun. We are off for our yearly vacation. Everytime we go, we are all completely excited. The children can’t wait to dig in the sand, frolic in the waves, and avoid bedtime. The adults, well, they can’t wait to watch the children dig in the sand, frolic in the waves, and of course, they can’t wait to take a nap.
As much as I look forward to this trip, I also approach it with a slight sense of trepidation. I fear having to balance the demands of my business and the joys of being with my family. I mean, really, I am extremely committed to my business. I want to and I have to work. But then again, I am just as committed to, maybe even more so, to my family.
Commitment is a huge part of amazing success. Your goals and your dreams need consistent energy, time, money, and other resources. One of the issues with commitment is that sometimes your time...
Recently, I heard the story of a person who was given a task to complete. Rather than even start the task the person found a host of other activities that required immediate attention. Of course, none of these activities actually demanded prompt action. After all, these activities had not been attended to in quite some time, but they could serve as a ready-made excuse for avoiding completing the necessary task.
This is a story of lack of focus. It is a story that I have heard time and time again. I guess this means that it is not a particularly unique occurrence. Actually, I know that this happens more often than we would like to admit.
Every goal has a systematic process that has steps to achieving it. However, there are distractions, unexpected events, and emotions that can derail the process.
The antidote to derailment is- gaining focus
There are just a few questions that remain.
How do you gain focus?
How do you be productive in the face of challenges?
How do you create...
There is a distinct difference between wishes and goals. Most people have wishes rather than goals. They want to be rich. They want to be healthy or they want to travel the world. It’s fun to wish and dream, but what turns a wish into a goal is direction and a plan to be able to produce the goal. One of my favorite books is Smarter, Faster, Better by Charles Duhigg.
If you want to turn your dreams into goals and your goals into reality take what I have learned from Duhigg. There is no bigger dreamer than me, but at some point, I stopped being dream oriented and moved to being process oriented. The lessons from Duhigg’s book made the transition and the process easier. These are my thoughts on goal setting inspired by Duhigg.
Pulitzer Prize-winning author, Charles Duhigg talks extensively on stretch goals. Stretch goals are plans that are beyond our current reach and resources. In some cases, these are the toughest because when you live within a certain paradigm you...
One of my favorite people is Larry Winget. In 2005, I gave my first speech to a group of Persian women with my father interpreting for me. At the time, I was working with Frank Miles who is my mentor and the first speaker who I ever met. At the time, he was helping me outline a speech which would eventually be the basis for my first book.
In the lobby, Frank and I were chatting about the business and I was soaking up everything that he told me. He told me about a speaker named Larry Winget who was the top marketer in the speaking industry. I went home after the speech and bought some of his training materials including a book on speaking that I must have read a hundred times. I consumed Larry’s books and his training videos. I even sent an email in the early days of my speaking and he replied wishing me luck.
For the next few years, I followed Larry online and read his books. In 2011, I signed up to attend the annual meeting of the National Speakers’ Association. Before...