Last time on my blog I talked about how amazing my book launch was but I didn’t mention two big things that happened to me.
In 2004, I went to my first meeting of the National Speakers Association in Arizona and before attending, I only knew one speaker, my mentor, Frank Miles. When I got to the event in Arizona there were about 100 people and being the networker that I am, I tried to meet all of them. On my nametag, it had the city that I’m from. When I met a speaker, everyone would ask me if I knew Terry Paulson. I think I was asked that question at least 25 times. It turns out that Terry Paulson lives in the same city I do. I returned home and looked Terry up. It turns out that he was the former president of the National Speakers’ Association. I emailed Terry and asked him if he could meet at Starbucks. He replied and we began a relationship. A week before the event I sent Terry a note inviting him to my book launch and half way through my...
One of the critical aspects to launching my book PR campaign and the second leg of my speaking career was to produce a high end video so I could better demonstrate what I can offer. I decided to have a book launch event which is a lot of work including coordinating with the hotel and my various vendors. However, the hardest part of putting on the event was getting people there. I was on the phone, using social media, delivering flyers and rehearsing the speech. The night turned out AMAZING! I gave the best speech I have ever given and I could not be more happy, aside from the fact that my stupid legs could not stop shaking from pure joy.
Speaking gives me such a sense of euphoria, power and control. There’s a few things that give me a sense of the ordinary like speaking. Let me share a little secret. The reason I like speaking is because I miss not being able to go up to a stranger and start rapping. Not many people say “I can’t do this, why not make a career...
This morning I woke up and I wondered what I would write today for my blog. I opened my email and clicked on a GoPro Video that was automatically sent to me by Youtube. One of the topics that I discuss in my book is the fact that speaking and writing give me a sort of high that I can’t get anywhere else. I can imagine that it would be really fun to strap a GoPro to my head and Zipline through the jungles, but I understand that would never be my reality.
As I eagerly anticipate next week to take the stage at the Sheraton, I am reminded that I absolutely love speaking and it’s my way to give back, to entertain and to receive a adrenaline rush. I simply can’t wait!
Join me next week as I exercise my craft, make you laugh, make you think and give you some ideas on how to make your life amazing and, in the meantime, I will be having the time of life!
Please RSVP at www.bigdreamsbook.com
One year ago, I was decorating the baby room, watching my baby grow in his mom’s stomach and thinking about my next step regarding my career. I was having casual conversations with consultants and editing my autobiography. I was eager to get my message out there, market it and start speaking again. I miss this stage. I had started a book called Big Dreams Take Big Sacrifices back in 2010. Halfway through the book, I had some family events that gave me the opportunity to take a three-year sabbatical and live life. There was something about my autobiography that bothered me, though. Nobody knew me and publishing an autobiography didn’t seem right. In late May of last year, I was scheduled to go to a conference in Dallas. A day before I took off, I was at the gym and it hit me. I needed to publish Big Dreams. The last night I was at the conference, I started talking to the organizer and he asked me what I did. I said, “I’m a writer and I have a book coming...
Earlier this week, I took a quick trip to San Diego with my family and friends. It’s the calm before the storm. On the last day we were there, I was at the pool and I saw a four-year-old girl in a wheelchair with her family. I introduced myself and befriended the father. We talked for a half an hour about life and I offered my friendship and my help. It turns out that we live half an hour away from each other.
One of the concepts I talk about in my new book is define your “why.” I have many selfish and unselfish “whys.” One of my unselfish “whys” is to create a platform so I can better help the disabled community. There are so many unique challenges that come as a result of my disability. Heck! Even non-disabled people have their own challenges! If you compound that with having a disability, then it’s an uphill battle. My goal is to make it somewhat easier. On a personal note, speaking and writing is like a big toy for me but I...
So, I have been working on my book, Big Dreams Take Small Sacrifices since 2010. When I came up with the slogan, it was so good, I had to write a book. At first, the title was Big Dreams Take Big Sacrifices, but I realized that extraordinary success starts with ordinary efforts which I talk about in the book. It’s been a journey writing this book. It has taught me a great deal and even made accepting my disability easier. I realize now that I love my dreams and while it might be a lot harder for me than the average person, it’s worth the sacrifice.
I am so happy I got two of my favorite authors and mentors to write the foreword, Larry [email protected] and Joe Calloway @joecalloway. They are two of the most interesting men that I’ve had the pleasure of meeting. Joe and Larry have helped me develop my goals and kept me grounded.
I have an amazing life. Many of my dreams have come true. But, I have bigger dreams. This book is a celebration of where I am now and...
I finally got the book off to the printer this week. I have a lot of cool stuff coming up in the next few months. I think the book is some of my finest work. I have a PR campaign coming up with the online component. There’s not much that I can do right now until I get the book back from the printer.
Over the weekend, I had to remind myself why I love what I’m doing. I went online and watched videos of some of my favorite speakers. I went on the speaking bureau site and watched some more videos and I got excited.
Excitement is a great thing, but in the excitement, I had to be very careful because excitement without action is just an empty dream. I want my dreams to come true because speaking and writing give me a sense of normalcy. It makes my disability seem like less of a hindrance and more of an annoyance.
Some people look at greatness and say, “Wow, that’s cool.” When I look at greatness, I say to myself, “Wow! That’s cool, let me play,...
About a month ago I was very busy and when I am busy, my manager Linda is even busier because she has to assist me with 50% of the activities that I do. I sensed she was overwhelmed. How did I sense it? Well, it’s very easy. She told me!
We all want to feel productive and so often, we equate being productive with being busy. I am in a very unique position that sometimes I just need to let Linda work and put my own activities on the back burner. Some activities I need to perform but some activities just keep me busy and in a weird way, hurt my productivity overall. I noticed that I don’t need to have Linda coming every day. Once or twice a week is more than enough.
I am very eager and anxious to get my book out. I have a lot of pent up energy and in the back of my mind, I want to stay busy but I have to remind myself, that busy doesn’t always translate into being productive.
There is always an ebb and flow to anything you do. The trick is to know when to work hard...
On Monday, my wheelchair stopped working and I had to schlep to Sylmar, which is 45-minutes away form my house. On the way back, my good friend said that I should try Bill’s Burger in Sherman Oaks and I never pass up a good burger unless we are going to Sushi. I was really upset that my chair broke and I had to pay between $200-$800 to fix it so trying a new place for a good burger seemed like a good idea.
After dropping off my chair and a quick trip to Costco to pick up dinner, we arrived at a shack. Not a restaurant, a shack! Once we ordered, my buddy Pat had to find an ATM because as it turns out, they did not accept credit cards. I wondered to myself, “why wouldn’t they at least have a Square to accept credit card payments?”
Then I heard customers congratulate the staff on getting a story written about them in the Los Angeles Times. I thought to myself, “just how good is their burger?”
After about 10 minutes, Pat...
I am launching an Indiegogo campaign for pre-sales of my book Big Dreams Take Small Sacrifices. Part of that campaign involves a video that I’m having edited.
In the video, I speak with my onstage partner about being ordinary. Last Friday, we set up a time to meet and unexpectedly, my partner got called into a meeting. We were texting and emailing all day to set up a time to meet. We finally met around 5:00 pm and after half an hour of takes, we got it done. After I edited the video, it was only 17 seconds.
The number one thing I am reminded of over and over again is that it doesn’t matter what sacrifices I have to make, the only the issue that matters in my mind is whether I want to get it done, or not.
I cannot compare how much other people have to sacrifice, the only thing that matters to me is whether my efforts are worth it to me.
There are times when life is easy and there are times when life is not so easy. The trick is to determine what sacrifices need to be done...