20/20 Clarity For 2020
We have embarked on a new decade. We want to welcome the new decade with clarity and a way to reach amazing success. When many people start a new year, they set resolutions. These resolutions are a wish list of goals that they would like to have materialize. Without consistent actions, you will have a challenging time achieving what you want in life. One of the keys of mindset is getting clarity on what you want to do, why you want to do it, the challenges involved, the people you need to help you, the habits needed, and the next steps. No matter how big or how pedestrian your goals or dreams are, the clearer you are, and the better mindset you have, the more likely you are to achieve your goals.
What do you want to do?
The question of what do you want to do is simple, yet, complex. We all have desires and wishes, but it takes clarity to turn the wishes into concrete goals. If you ask most people what they want out of life, you will hear answers such as...
Joy is something that we have to constantly infuse in our lives. Since the human brain is not wired to be happy part of our job and habits is to be conscious of the joys and blessings in our lives.
Every day we are faced with situations that we can interpret as blessings. Likewise, every day we are faced with situations that can ruin our day. For example, minute by minute, I can lament everything that I can’t do. My disability makes most activities exponentially more challenging. Activities such as eating, typing, using my phone, using the restroom, and getting around are taxing. Everything would be easier if I didn’t have a stupid little disability. Even the blessings in my life would be so much better if I could do what others do. In the past, I used to spend countless hours wondering about how my life would play out if I were not disabled.
I am learning how to as Brendon Burchard says, “honor the struggle” and "bring the joy” into my life. This does...
Perhaps the purpose of life is to find joy and happiness. What’s the point of having an amazing life without joy and happiness? After you achieve them for yourself, it’s time to bring joy and happiness to others.
People often assume that achieving goals will bring them happiness and joy. Statements such as “when I have a million dollars, I will be happy,” or “when I meet the love of my life, I will be happy,” or “when I have kids, I will be happy,” or “when I get to travel the world, I will be happy,” are often said when people talk about joy and happiness.
Limitations and challenges are often seen as obstacles to happiness. People tend to look at their limitations and see gray skies; however, behind every gray sky is an infinite amount of sunshine.
Wherever you are in life, you have to find a way to be happy. There have been periods of my life when I was not happy, and I blamed my lack of happiness on...
Mindset is critical in achieving our goals. Mindset is the way we go after goals, deal with challenges, deal with others, and so on. Mindset also touches every aspect of our lives. There are five keys to develop an amazing mindset. Also, mindset is not binary. It’s something that keeps evolving and changes over time. If you want to reach amazing success, change your mindset.
As we approach Thanksgiving, I am going to take a closer look at gratitude. When people talk about gratitude, they do it as a method of feeling better about their lives. Factors that prevent us from achieving our goals are the lack of connections, resources, or anything that we feel that gets in the way.
One of the exercises that we need to do when we are going after our goals is focusing on the resources that we have at our disposal while simultaneously navigating our challenges or what gets in the way of success. For most, the latter is stronger than the former. This is where gratitude comes in as a tool for success, not just as a temporary feel-good gimmick.
When I was in my 20s, I was obsessed with the fact that my disability got in the way of my goals and my dreams. Although I was accomplishing my goals, I thought that my disability made everything more challenging and more cumbersome. To tell you the truth, it did. It still does. However, now I realize that was...
The environment that you are in or the environment that you create has a tremendous effect on your goals and the way you go after your dreams. Unfortunately, when people set goals they don’t take their environment into consideration.
Also, a big part of success is mindset. Mindset is the way you think about your goals, go after your success, and even go about your day. Environment plays a big part in your mindset. Environment can be categorized into two buckets. The first bucket is your physical environment. This can be the tools for success. Your computer, your workout clothes, the food in the house, even your phone are part of your physical environment. These are the tools that you need to achieve success. If you have more access to the tools used to achieve your goals, you are more likely to use them. For example, if you have a treadmill in your living room, you are more likely to use it than if it is located in your garage. If you have junk food as opposed to healthy food...
We are in November and, this time of the year, most people are slowing down and getting ready for the holidays. However, I want you to have a head start on the brand new year and decade. Now is a great opportunity to think, plan, and get reenergized regarding what you want in your life.
It is normal to have the instinct of slowing down, taking it easy, and enjoying the holidays. This is awesome and need not be abandoned. I want you to be present, enjoy your family, possibly take a couple of trips, and be grateful for the blessings in your life. However, I want you to take a little of that time to really consider what you want from your life and how you can achieve amazing success.
It is time to embrace this time of year and prepare for what the new year and decade will bring for your amazing success.
A majority of our behavior is learned. We learn from the people that we interact with, the media, our friends and family, etc. By watching people, we learn how to think and act. We learn behaviors and the level of success we can achieve. Our notion of success is dictated by what we see and what we hear. Nobody was born being a basketball star, football star, a writer, or anything else. We were all introduced to these professions.
Most people base their mindset or their way of thinking on the people they have access to growing up such as their parents, extended family, teachers, and other members of their community. In order to become amazing, you must get outside of your circle of influence and let amazing people inspire you.
There is a sea of people who can inspire you. They can give you new ideas, new methodologies, and a roadmap to your own version of amazing success. When I grew up, I did not meet any speakers or any authors. I met my first speaker in my mid-20s....
In our quest to become amazing and live out our goals, we need to be encouraged by the right people in the right way. We underestimate the influence that others have on us. One of the keys to amazing success is to be surrounded and influenced by people who can actually help us on our journey to our dreams and our goals.
Here is a list of people in your life and how to build relationships that can help you reach your goals:
Friends and family
We all have friends and family who we rely on for emotional support and advice. These people can encourage our dreams or dismiss them. They can empower you or they can tell you that your dreams are ridiculous. They can even ridicule you in a passive aggressive way. One of the wrong assumptions that people make is that we think that people that are closest to us should encourage us in the right way. However, the reality is that the people that are closest to us base their encouragement on their own way of thinking or their own mindset....
Convention says that we need to always need to be motivated and inspired. Although this is true, and I believe that we need to find a way to find motivation and inspiration, we also need to be encouraged by others to take the right action. We all take cues from the people who we spend the most time with. Encouragement is not always positive. For example, we may have friends who encourage us to stay out late, drink that extra glass of wine, or purchase fashions that are slightly over our budget.
According to Noah St. John, every successful person has an abundance of encouragement. In addition, Jim Rhone said that we are the average of the five people we hang out with the most. In order to become amazing, we have to seek encouragement. We also have to seek the encouragement of people who can actually help us reach our goals.
Encouragement is more than a cheerleader. Encouragement is emotional support and advice on the next steps. If you look at any addiction recovery program,...