Priorities and Distractions

Uncategorized Apr 29, 2022

Let’s face it, most people are not going after an amazing life.

 Why?

It’s challenging.

Many would rather engage in distractions that don’t get them very far or even be detrimental.

Success takes work.  And, oftentimes the work needed to succeed is boring, tedious, frustrating, scary, and other negative emotions.  The brain is a very defensive organ that wants to protect us from threats and discomfort.  So, instead of focusing on the challenges ahead, we distract ourselves by taking actions that make us feel good in the moment rather than put us back on a more productive path.  This is one of the challenges that every successful person takes.  Examples of this can be focusing on other’s flaws rather than focusing on our own.  Wishing life would be different than changing our own lives.  Putting the main focus on something else rather than laying out next steps.  Re-litigating the past instead of accepting,...

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Human Tendencies

Uncategorized Apr 22, 2022

  I have been studying personal development for over twenty years.  Recently, I wanted to understand human behavior and how it affects success.  I have found that it’s easier to embrace natural human tendencies rather than go against them.  When you go against human nature and human tendencies you are adding one more layer of challenges.  The goal should be not to work harder than you need to.  The goal is to be as efficient as possible because you want to save your energy for bigger and bigger goals or just to ultimately enjoy life.

 

  1.   We are social creatures. So much of conventional wisdom is surrounded around the idea of being independent and forging our own path.  This comes from our natural pushback that we had during our childhood.  We fought for our independence from our parents or nagging teachers.  However, this does not serve success.  We are all influenced and encouraged by somebody else.  We...
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We Were There, Now We're Here

Uncategorized Apr 15, 2022

 

A couple of weeks ago, I took my first trip in two years and it was amazing.  I have a disability and COVID added a couple more layers to my life.  The most tangible example is putting on and, more importantly, keeping on a mask.  Even though it’s challenging for anybody, it was more challenging for me. If the mask falls off, I need help getting it reattached to my face. Basically, it is one more thing I need help to do which is emotionally taxing for me. 

I was never comfortable enough to travel during the height of COVID because it just felt unsafe.  However, recently, I began to feel that now it was time.  Although the last two years were challenging, it feels like we have turned the corner.  It was nice to see people, be close to them, and not worry.  Instead of being frustrated about what was taken from us, I was just grateful that we got it back.

It was nice to be in a group, talk to others, and just be.

I was reminded that...

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A Little Bit of Focus

Uncategorized Mar 25, 2022

When life gets challenging or tedious, it’s tempting to focus on events that are out of our control. It’s easy to worry about what’s going on in entertainment or around the world.  While it’s important to be up to date and fight for humanity, you have another job.

Your job and your purpose is to improve your life and the lives of people who you interact with.  This can be your family, your community, pursuing professional goals, and even making the cashier laugh.

 

Focus on improving your life.

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Is This What It Takes to be Successful?

Uncategorized Mar 15, 2022

We all have ideas of what it takes to succeed.  We also have societal and cultural narratives around success.  Hard work, having passion, always trying one hundred percent, and overcoming obstacles are all examples of common assumptions about what we need to succeed.  Oftentimes, people talk about the intangibles of success.  To me, every intangible can be explained with a little nuance and some deeper thinking.

While it’s challenging to argue against hard work, what does “hard work” really mean?  Hard work can only take you so far.  There are plenty of people who work sixty, seventy, or even eighty hours a week, but they work on the same thing all the time and are not growing themselves.  Taking a few of those hours and putting them into personal growth or skill development or making new contacts is much more valuable.

Having passion can hurt.  Passion is defined as an uncontrollable emotion.  What is often...

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Memories of a Pandemic

Uncategorized Mar 11, 2022

In early 2020 we heard rumblings and stories about the coronavirus.  We had no idea of what to do with the information.  However, two years ago in March, we all had to face reality.  Around March 10th, which is my wife’s birthday, it all hit home. We had to face reality.  There was a pandemic.

Story after story made this pandemic real.  In no particular order, Tom hanks tested positive, the first NBA player tested positive after mocking the reporters, the league then postponed the season. This all culminated with the shutdown.

Personally, I went to the Apple store and saw that it was almost empty.  My family cancelled a Persian New Year celebration.  I was planning to go watch my friend speak in San Diego, which got cancelled.  My sons were planning to go to school online.

For the first few months, we were all in a haze.  We did not know what we could and could not do.  We were spaying down everything.  Every time I would...

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Is It Hard or Is It Challenging

Uncategorized Mar 04, 2022

My disability provides many minute-to-minute challenges in my life.  There are some activities I can’t do without help.  There are  some activities that take me more energy.  There are some activities that take more time and more money.

I always felt awkward calling my life hard.  I have amazing people in my life.  I grew up and live in a bustling part of California.  I have never experienced hunger, abuse, rejection, and other hardships in my life.

The word “hard” implies that something is complicated, cumbersome, and limiting.  The word “challenge” has a slightly different connotation.  It means something that you can take on, something that has more of a path, something that has rewards at the end.  So often human beings mistake hard with challenging.  When you assume something is hard, you assume that it will stop you.  When you assume that something is challenging, it’s easier to...

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Follow Your Dreams

Uncategorized Feb 25, 2022

There are so many ways that people describe going after your dreams.  Chase your dreams.  Finding your truth.  Living out your purpose.  The world is a playground.  Most of the way people describe their dreams and the way you go after them is to describe what you want and somehow it will come true.  However, a more realistic approach is to follow your dreams.

Life is like a negotiation.  You have some idea of what you want and if you are willing to listen, or do the necessary research, you can find out what you need to do in order to accomplish your goals.  It is not wise to unilaterally decide what you are going to do, make vague assumptions and think that is all that is necessary to get to your goals.  Any goal you have someone else has accomplished or at least some version of it.

Follow your dreams does not mean that you ask the universe exactly what you want and somehow a magical path will reveal itself.  The path will reveal...

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Notes About the Super Bowl Halftime Show

Uncategorized Feb 18, 2022

As a sports fanatic, whenever there is a Super Bowl, I usually pay most of my attention to the game. This year, the Super Bowl was in my hometown of Los Angeles.  I’m a Seahawks fan; so, the Rams are my rival.

I like music, but I never considered myself to be a music connoisseur. However, this year, I was excited to watch the halftime show.

Growing up in the 80s and 90s and being a West Coast kid, I enjoyed all the performers at the halftime show.  To make a long story short, the halftime show blew me away.  It was better than I could have ever imagined.

It blew any expectations out of the water.

This made me think about exceeding expectations.  In our own lives, others have expectations of us, and if you want to be amazing, your performance simply needs to exceed what others expect from you.  When you do this, others will notice and give you bigger and bigger opportunities.

Next, I always say that without the ordinary, you cannot be...

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Success Happens

Uncategorized Feb 11, 2022

 

Most of the time, success happens when nobody is watching.  Nobody is judging.  Nobody is seeing what you are doing.  It’s up to you to do the activities that most people are not willing to do.  It’s up to you to stay motivated and stay on course.

 

I have been working on a writing project for a month and a half and at times it feels tedious-  because it is.  However, progress feels slow, but when I look back at the whole thing, I see that I have come far.  Progress can feel slow, but push through and keep doing the work.

 

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