When I’m out and about, I often wonder what people think when they see me. Do they feel sorry for me? Do they wonder what kind of life I have? Do they see me as one of them? Would they ever guess that I read books or that I’m engaged or that I have a big network?
A couple of stories.
About twelve years ago, I was furniture shopping with my parents and I couldn’t get my chair into the store. My parents told me to wait outside. As I was sitting there, a woman passing by pulled out a dollar bill and gave it to me.
My college roommate Sami and I were catching a movie a couple of years ago. Before we went in, a woman stopped me in the lobby and asked if I was there to see Alice in Wonderland. I couldn’t help but laugh, because she had no idea that Sami and I were good friends hanging out–talking about his time in Dubai, girls, and my book.
Usually I don’t care what people think of me or how they see me. There are times when I need to make an...
For me, this week’s blog is very special because it’s a continuation of what I posted one year ago this week.
February 14, 2011 I have not given up on love yet. The fact is that I am more than positive that love is out there for everybody, including me, but finding it well, that’s a whole different story….
To be honest, I am very frustrated and scared right now but I’m also excited because I can’t wait. I have lived with that dichotomy every single day since I was 20. On one hand, I am scared. On the other hand, I can’t wait to go out and live life. Tonight I will spend Valentine’s Day with my roommate and best friend for 25 years watching the Lakers game and eating great food, wondering what I will be doing Valentine’s Day 2012.
There have been so many times in my life when finding a girl seemed like finding a needle in a haystack. In my post last Valentine’s Day, I expressed that frustration and also wondered what I...
Last week I talked about taking life for granted. In the past few months, I traveled a lot. I watch other people all the time. I think about their lives, I think about what issues they have, and mostly I think about what issues I have that they don’t.
On my way to the Philippines, the airline wanted to check my electric chair at the counter, something that’s never happened to me before. They provided me a manual wheelchair. They did not let me keep the chair once I got to the gate, so I was forced to sit there for an hour not being able to go to a restaurant or anything before my flight. Once in the Philippines, I did not get my request for a handicapped accessible room. In fact, there was only one hotel that had an adequate handicapped room on my entire trip to four different cities (three within the United States). There were many other issues I’m not going to get into because I don’t want to bum myself out.
I often wonder what it would be like to travel...
Not a day goes by in my life when I don’t think about other people doing activities that I just can’t do. There are times I just want to shake them and say, do you know how lucky you are? Do I really want them to think about everything they do as a gift? Not really.
I was thinking about my own life. Do I take it for granted?
The answer is absolutely.
We all take things for granted. I take many things for granted, including my friends, family, and lifestyle. I appreciate my life but I admit sometimes I take it for granted. I have so many positive aspects in my life that it is impossible for me to not take it for granted.
I always had food, shelter, and a warm place to sleep and there are too many people in the world who don’t have that. Heck, just one is too many. In order to grow, my feeling is that we want more. That desire just to get more and more drives successful people. To be fully content in your life is contradictory to achieving success.
In writing this...
Last week I described my four amazing trips. One thing I left out is that they had an incredible impact on the way I way I look at my life and my goals for this year. Each one reminded me of where I’ve been and where I want to go.
Not only was I was in a room with twelve amazing professionals, but I felt that I belonged in that room. I met Larry Winget someone I have followed intently since ‘05. I also got to meet Joe Calloway, another incredible speaker. I learned a lot and was also reminded of everything I already know. When we get stuck, we often question our own abilities. This past year has been a whirlwind and it is time to pursue my goals with a vengeance. The conference reminded me of that and has given me more confidence than I’ve had in a while.
One of my biggest victories early on was being a small part of the USC football team family. I spoke for them, I got to go on the field before the home games, and it felt like I was a celebrity....
I had an amazing holiday. I took four trips in one month and loved every minute of it (except getting nauseous on the plane, but I’m okay now).
On December 7, I took off to Arizona to meet Larry Winget and Joe Calloway. In August, I went to the National Speakers Association where I could not wait to meet Larry. He spoke there and I missed meeting him. But this time he hosted an event with Joe, and it literally changed the way I look at my business and my life. It was an intense meeting in the boardroom followed by dinner at Winget’s house. I enjoyed myself and met eleven colleagues who I will keep in contact with for many years.
I flew to Seattle the next day, where I saw the Seahawks beat the Rams on Monday Night Football. I hung out with Coach Carroll the day before the game at the headquarters. I got to go on the field before the game. It was amazing but cold.
A week later, I flew to the Philippines with my roommate and best friend Patrick, where I got to hang out for...
I’m back in the office after four amazing trips that I took in December. I will talk about them in a later post. I’d like to start of the new year with some words about goals. I did this last year and I think I want to continue the tradition.
I am excited about this year because I am going to get married, going to publish my autobiography, and speak more.
Before I went on my trips, I watched a video by Joe Calloway, who I met in Arizona along with Larry Winget. The video was about letting go. The step after goal setting should be an inventory of things that did not work, a list of things that hold you back. Examples can be friends who don’t support your goals or friends who make fun of your goals. Also, they could be habits such as going for a Monday night cocktail with colleagues.
We all have struggles in our life that hinder us, but in order to move forward you have to let those things go.
So, we have come to the end of the year. Let me tell you, this year has been the best year of my life.
My dreams came true.
I am in the best place emotionally in over fourteen years. I’m having a good time and my life is finally loving me back.
I came into the year with a lot of questions:
In January, my new house was getting renovated. At the same time, my best friend Patrick Saylor was getting ready to move down here. This will be the first time since college I had moved out of my parents’ house. Pat came down from Lake Tahoe on Super Bowl weekend and we went to Vegas. When we got back, I saw that my bed was moved into my house. Almost a year before, I was at my friend Artin’s housewarming party where I asked myself if I would I ever be able to buy my own house.
During the first part of the year, I was more than a little bit obsessed with finding a...
I lost one of my best friends: Brent.
He passed away the Saturday after Thanksgiving. I’ve known Brent since high school. We started hanging out about seven years ago through my friend Arash. Arash and I would go to his house about twenty minutes away, where we would barbeque and just hang out. I would often crash on his floor.
One of his favorite stories about me
Brent used to be a caretaker for a quadriplegic. He assumed that like his employer, I had no control of my legs. One morning, he woke up and saw me already sitting in my chair and wondered how I got up there. A couple of weeks ago, we were sitting at my kitchen table and he turned to me and said, “Sourena, I need to stand up and stretch my legs.” I turned to him and said, “Me too.” He turned bright red and said, “I’m sorry.” Then I laughed. That was Brent. He was a considerate, funny, and gentle guy.
This year I moved into my own house for the first time. My roommate Pat and...
As I wind up the year, I am already thinking about next year. Mainly because I’m getting ready to go on a speaking retreat with Larry Winget and Joe Calloway.
One mistake that I have made in the past is that I didn’t put the business paramount to everything else. In order for me to take my business to the next level, I need to put my business above everything else. I have so many expectations from my business. I want to have fun, I want to make money, I want my business to show me the country, and I want my business to introduce me to fascinating people.
In the past, I have been focused on the list. What is going to make this all happen? Focusing on making sales and marketing paramount to everything else, even my own desires? In the past, I tried to have my cake and eat it too. That didn’t work. I was focused on hanging out, watching football, meeting the media, and other activities. It’s like being in a relationship. There are times when your own wants and...