Update

blog Mar 03, 2011

Most days when Kristi comes in, we talk about my next steps as a writer, a speaker, and business owner. She is a writer herself and has a marketing background. When we got back into the thick of things early in January, I said that I wanted to be more methodical. I shared with her an idea I was playing with in the back of my mind and immediately she said, You’re writing it.

At the time, I did not know if it would be a book or an article, or just a blog post. But as it turns out, I started writing the second version of my autobiography and this Monday I finished it. I am emotionally exhausted and over the last 10 years I have really grown as a writer. This version is very mature compared to my earlier one, which was just anecdotal; this version is more reflective. I reflect on my disability, love, life, and how I see the world.

It’s also very raw and that’s why I’m exhausted. I am also very invigorated because I saw how far I’ve come in my 33 years. I am...

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10 Things You Don’t Necessarily Need To Know

blog Feb 24, 2011

From the beginning of this year until now, my blog posts have had a very serious tone. So today I decided to have a little bit of fun and give you a glimpse into my personality with 10 random facts about me that have nothing to do with anything. 1. My favorite fiction book is The Beach House by James Patterson. 2. I have watched Coming to America, Big, The Princess Bride and Major League II each over 75 times. 3. I have gone to Vegas at least five times with under 24 hour notice on a whim or because I had a bad day. 4. I can eat pizza every day if I had to. 5. I once towed two wagons full of neighborhood kids with my wheelchair back in the 90s. 6. My friends often get me out of my chair to dance on my feet when we go out. 7. My friend Jerry got mad at me because I forgot my handicap sign one night and remarked jokingly, why do you think we hang out with you? 8. I am a computer nerd. 9. I am proud to be a mama’s boy and if you met my mom, you’d understand why. 10. I have...

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Valentine’s Day

blog Feb 14, 2011

This week is Valentine’s week and some people think that this holiday was somehow concocted by the gift industry. I am not going to look up the origins of Valentine’s Day because I have a packed day and just don’t feel like it. Too honest? (It’s a blog, get over it!)

I am 33 and if you have been keeping up with this blog, then you know I’m having a strong desire to find love. I always thought of myself as a romantic. Heck, my book is called “Love Your Life and It Will Love You Back.” A clue? I feel that it is time for me to start looking for romance. I just moved into my first house and before this, I always came up with the excuse that I am not ready because I don’t have my business where I want it or my living conditions are not ideal, but with the great windfall that my family went through, those excuses are gone. In fact, one of the biggest factors that influenced me moving out of my parent’s house and into my own place was...

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Advice on How to Achieve Your Goals — Part 2

blog Feb 11, 2011

In the last few weeks when I was thinking about my own goals, I really tried to swallow my own medicine, buy what I was selling, or whatever cliché you want to put in there. I looked at my own behavior and tried to make as formal as possible. First, on the girlfriend front, I decided to email no less and no more than three girls every day my manager comes in. Also, I pick out three articles and have Kristi put them into a Word document so I can read them later as opposed to just saying “yeah, I should do this or that.”

The surreal part of all this is the fact that since I put my first blog post up earlier this month, I felt a duty to do everything on the list. Because I put it out on the Internet, I feel an obligation not only to myself but to everybody that reads my blog to keep my word. It’s not that I owe you any explanation but I just feel more accountable this way. It’s weird, I know. As a matter of fact, after I put the first blog post up, I got...

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Advice on How to Achieve Your Goals — Part 1

blog Feb 02, 2011

For the last couple weeks I have been talking about goals. I started by defining my own goals for 2011 and then followed up by looking at the problems people face on the way to achieving their goals. So, I decided not to leave you guys hanging by giving you everything that could go wrong with your goals and give you some words of encouragement towards achieving them.

The main thread of these three blog posts is the fact that goal setting and goal achievement needs to be more methodical and structured. It is paramount to make the goal as tangible as possible. Make the goal real really ask yourself why do I want to achieve this goal…what impact would it have if I actually achieved the goal? One of the most common New Year’s resolutions is to lose weight. Great goal, right? But what would actually achieving that goal mean to a person? Would that mean that they could fit in their favorite jeans? If so, why not put those jeans out where you could see them every single day?...

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Why Goals Fall Flat

blog Jan 25, 2011

Last week I posted my New Year’s resolutions and ever since I posted that, I’ve been thinking about why most New Year’s resolutions fail.  I have been going through in my head my own behaviors as well as the behaviors of people that I know.  I tried to talk to as many people as I can about their successes and their obstacles; as much as I give you my own stories in my books and in this blog, I want to see if my random thoughts are unique to my situation or if they apply to a vast array of people. (I try to write about issues that apply to most situations.)

When people set goals one of the issues is that they bite off more than they can chew.   It’s great to have long term goals.  In fact, I think that the more long term thinking you have, the more likely you are to achieve your goals.  With that said, people don’t break down their goals.  Sometimes they don’t even know where to begin.  When you have a lofty...

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New Year Goals

blog Jan 10, 2011

With the New Year come new goals. In my last post, I recapped 2010 and, to say the least, I was thrown for a loop. I am trying to figure out what that big windfall means for my life, my business, and my identity. The fact is that my personality has two halves when it comes to my business. One half is a creative person that loves to write and just wants to focus on the creative side of the business. The other half is a hardcore business person that needs to have a plan and wants to know how everything is going to work out. I am happy to have both sides because I feel that it is necessary to be both creative and business-minded. I do not want to be one of those people who throws things against the wall and sees what sticks. On the other hand, I don’t want to be one of those people who is so married to a plan that I don’t see the opportunities in front of me. So much of my work is based on happy accidents.

There is part of me that does not like New Year’s resolutions...

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2010 Rewind

blog Dec 22, 2010

If I had to define 2010 in one word, that word would be surreal. It was definitely the most interesting year of my life with some of the most extreme highs and lows I’ve ever experienced.

In the middle of February, Rich came to me and said that he got a job offer. We discussed it for a while and I encouraged him to take the job. My thinking was that in order for me to get to the next level, I needed to hire a manager. So Rich took the job but remains my speaking partner. I hired my manager Kristi Walter in early March and we have had many discussions about where I want to go and how I want to get there. Meanwhile, my parents’ equity on the house was drying up in order to fund my company, which was tearing me up more than I can explain. I could see the day coming when I would have to give up on my dream and I was scared. There were a few bright spots. I got approached by Looking Beyond and they wanted to give me the Soaring Spirit Award for 2010. They held an exclusive...

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May I have your autograph?

blog Dec 16, 2010

Last Sunday night, the Cowboys were playing the Eagles and after the game, Jesse Palmer asked for the autograph of Michael Vick, the Eagles Quarterback. This whole week, the media has been arguing whether that was a good move or a boneheaded move. I personally think we should admire our colleagues; Vick is at the top of his game, so I see nothing wrong with Palmer wanting his autograph.

I have been wanting to write a post about autographs for a while. I guess now is the best time. I never understood the value of autographs. Is it an excuse to get close to somebody you admire? Is it something that you can put in a bookcase? When I was 17, I saw Will Smith in the mall and my mom asked me if I wanted to go get his autograph. I said no. I have to admit I got Pete Carroll’s autograph the first time that I gave him my book but that was on a football and somehow a football is different than a magazine or a piece of paper. I still have the football in my showcase and it looks...

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Technological Woes

blog Dec 09, 2010

I love technology. In fact, I could be called a geek. (And I have been quite a number of times!) I got a cell phone in 1997 before most people. In marketing, I would be considered an “early adopter” (look mom and dad that USC degree paid off!). Lately, I have been having some technical difficulties. I’ve noticed that all the new cell phones have either touch screens or tiny little keyboards like the iPhone or the Blackberry. I have a hard time dialing a cell phone with big old numbers as it is. About a month ago, I dropped my cell phone on the floor and when I went to pick it up, I ran over it with my 300 pound chair (not including my weight). I saw that the screen was all funky. (And when I say funky, I mean screwed up!) I put up with my problem for another month when I ran over it again. Now…let me explain. I’ve had a cell phone since ‘97, and never once ran over it. Sure, I dropped it a few times, but never ran over it. On a side note, I have...

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