Picking Battles

blog Jul 13, 2012

A couple of weeks ago, I was at my parents’ house and my friends Jay and Dickie dropped by. We were talking about my trip to the Philippines and my dad brought up the fact that I couldn’t use the restroom on the 15-hour flight. A few days later, I had breakfast with them again and they were still talking about how I couldn’t use the restroom on the flight. To me, that’s part of my life. And, yes, it’s annoying. I really don’t dwell on that, that much. I dwell on other things. In fact, I dwell on the fact that I can’t use an iPad on the plane or use the computer more than the fact that I can’t use the restroom. After all, it’s a long, boring flight. Yes, it’s hard not going to

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the bathroom, but in my mind, I have to pick my battles because if I don’t, I will go crazy. I would dwell on this one minute and that one minute, and my life would be filled with...

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Getting Comfortable

blog Jul 05, 2012

A couple of months ago, I blogged about my issues with my new Mac. I figured out a way to use the old operating system Snow Leopard with my keyboard, because the drivers for Lion were not out yet. So, I bought a MacBook Pro, which I was planning to do anyway because I travel extensively.

I have software that reads the text to me, but it was not working right. So, I decided to buy new software. It felt like I was borrowing a computer. In addition, I did not get my iTunes library up until now. For a couple of months, I was using the PC side of the Mac. Last week, I finally got everything working just right and I feel that I am more creative, more relaxed, and more comfortable.

Sorry to bore you with my mumble jumble, but this is what I learned: You need to create your own space whether it be in your kitchen, in your living room, with your video games, with your stamp collection, and so on. Mine just happens to be in my office, and for over six months it was not my own space. It...

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Relief

blog Jun 28, 2012

Last Thursday night I was watching the NBA finals. After the Miami Heat won the championship, LeBron James had a sense of relief on his face. Although he had been wanting a championship ever since he got into the league, this was only another notch in his illustrious career. He has three MVPs, a gold medal, his own line with Nike, and now an NBA championship with a championship MVP. Wow. But it’s not enough if you want to be considered the greatest in the world. He needs more.

One of the main differences between really successful people is once they achieve something, it’s right back to work. Yes, they celebrate. Yes, they treat themselves to the spoils of victory, but it’s right back to work.

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Expectations

blog Jun 21, 2012

Last week, Southwest Airlines got voted best in customer service. The weird part is that Southwest does not have first class. It doesn’t offer meals on the flight. The only thing that is offered are cheap flights and free checked bags. Nobody who flies Southwest expects anything more.

Life is about setting expectations. People expect what is promised or at least people expect to be treated like they’ve been treated in the past. Managing expectations is one of the most important parts of life.

For example, if you tell a friend that you will call them on Thursday and you don’t call them until Friday, you might let down your friend. But if you call them on Wednesday, you might surprise them. Right now I am talking to colleagues and one of them said that he wants to talk every day, and one of them said that he can’t call me until early July. I get that both of them are busy, but I have different expectations of them. I hold the first friend to a higher standard...

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My mid-thirties

blog Jun 15, 2012

If I didn’t go out on Friday and Saturday nights a couple of years ago, I felt there was something missing. Not only that, even if I went out, I wanted to come home after midnight. I felt like I was going to miss something if I wasn’t out and about. If someone asked me how my weekend was, I wanted to tell them about a great adventure I had. A couple of weeks ago I was invited to a party but decided to stay home and chat with Leslie. That was where I wanted to be. On Saturday, I went downtown during the day to run some errands with my parents. In the past, on Saturday afternoons I would start hitting the phones asking my friends what they were doing. This Saturday I decided just to hang out at home with Pat and watch the game…and I loved it. I am more secure now than I have ever been about my social life. This is where I want to be. Engaged, waiting for Leslie to come, and looking forward to the day when I hang out with my family at night, falling asleep with my...

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Relaxing

blog Jun 07, 2012

I just got back from Hawaii and the Philippines on Tuesday night. I am exhausted but energized, if that makes any sense.

Before I left for Hawaii, I woke up sad because I had to leave my fiancée Leslie for about three months. I assumed that I would not see her until September, when she was expecting to go for her fiancée visa interview. There is a statute that says for a fiancée visa, the applicant needs to have a valid passport for at least six months. Leslie received hers in mid-February.

We called the embassy to find out if we could get the statute waived. To my surprise, the woman said yes. So Leslie has an interview on the 20th of June, and shortly after that, she can come. I cannot tell you how much I like being with her. She’s kind, she’s sweet, and she makes me a more relaxed, well-rounded person. Isn’t that what love is about?

We didn’t do much in the Philippines. We went shopping at the local mall, went to see her big family two...

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Adventure

blog May 31, 2012

On Mother’s Day, I went to my parents’ house to hang out with the family and celebrate. We were checking the DVR and my mom had recorded a biography about ventriloquist Jeff Dunham. He is one of the best ventriloquists out there. The last few weeks I have been consumed by trying to get out there again to speak. It’s almost an obsession. Believe me, watching the documentary did not help. Now I’m more obsessed than ever. What gives me confidence is the fact that he had many setbacks. One of the reasons that I have been just a little tentative is because the first go around I did not create a sustainable stream of income. There, I said it. I had great pockets of success but it was not sustained. Luckily, I have the luxury of time and I am doing it for the right reasons.

Another unique similarity is the fact that ventriloquism is thought to be the bottom of the entertainment barrel. Mr. Dunham made it sexy by adding comedy and unique characters. There were times...

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The Cooler

blog May 26, 2012

On Sunday night, I got into bed and watched television. I saw on the DVR that my best friend and roommate Patrick had recorded the movie The Cooler, a dark drama about a guy who cools off hot casino tables. I instantly had a flashback to the first time I watched the movie Christmas Eve 2004. I was in a complete funk. I had no job, I didn’t know whether my disability would stop me, I was interested in a girl who didn’t return the sentiment. I was a mess.

I went to Pat’s house just to get away from it all. We spent Christmas Eve watching The Cooler and Christmas watching basketball.

As I laid in bed on Sunday staring at the name on the DVR, I instantly replayed everything that was happening at that time in my head and I smiled because now I am in a good place. I had just finished talking to my fiancée Leslie, I was sleeping in the master bedroom of my own place, I had my best friend Pat two door down, I just celebrated my mom’s birthday with my whole...

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Getting Ready to Come Back

blog May 24, 2012

As my manager Kristi is posting this, I am sleeping in the Philippines. I have no idea how my trip is going because I am writing this before I leave. I do not want to interrupt my streak of blog posts just because I am having a good time. Last week I talked about how I’m eager, yet hesitant, to start speaking. I could easily have said to myself that I will just deal with everything when I get back. I could also have said to myself that I’m taking a vacation to get away from everything. One of the reasons that I didn’t want to do that is because I wanted to come back to some kind of structure and momentum. Here’s what I did. I bought a new scanner so I could scan books because my old one conked out. I bought a stack of books so when I get back I can start reading on a more consistent basis. Kristi is going to be working on my autobiography while I’m gone.

Momentum needs attention. I do not want to stop momentum just because I want to have fun. I want to...

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Don’t over agonize it

blog May 20, 2012

I have been really anxious the last few months. Also, I have been hesitant to commit to a path. I have been scared of not liking success. Boy, am I a mess. When anybody starts something big they should be aware of what can go wrong but not dwell on it.

When I look back on my life, everything big involves something that went horribly wrong. If someone told me ahead of time everything that would go wrong, I wouldn’t do a thing. When I went to USC, if someone told me I was going to have a heck of a time finding assistants or one night would hit my mouth against the heater, eventually knocking out my front teeth, there was no way I would have done it. If someone told you everything that went wrong at the airport would you take that trip?

It’s akin to going on a first date. You don’t compare credit reports, you don’t get DNA tests to make sure there’s no incompatibilities. You just enjoy yourselves and see if you dig each other. If you think about everything...

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