Oftentimes, there is a tenuous connection between mindset and success. When people want more out of life or want to get out of a jam, the last place they look is mindset. Mindset is almost a luxury. My job is to show you how mindset drives success. I believe that mindset touches everything important in your life.
The actions that you take on a daily or hourly basis are the building blocks to your life. They are also the input that fuels your life. The better the input, the more success you will have. Actions lead to behavior which lead to habits then to processes then to living the life that you have.
Mindset affects the actions that you take. Over the course of a day, you take dozens or even hundreds of actions. Some examples of these actions are what happens when you first open your eyes in the morning, whether you have a healthy breakfast or not, how you say good morning to your loved ones, whether you start off the day with meditation, exercise, or being...
Adversity is a great teacher, and when adversity happens, it often shines a light on underlying problems. Similarly, success, can always mask or dampen underlying issues.
This year has been one of the most challenging years we have ever had. First, there was the pandemic. Then there was the death of George Floyd. What exacerbates both challenges are underlying societal, economic, and political issues. The events over this last year are signs that we have underlying issues that we need to improve. However, beyond the obvious issues, there are many more factors that lead to challenges that we face. Although this country is incredible, we can do better.
Let’s talk about you.
You are a highly ambitious person who wants a better life. You work hard for your family and for yourself. When challenges are faced, you deal with them.
One way to live out an amazing life is to practice the habit of consistent improvement. Instead of shining a light on your issues...
Notes About America
When my parents arrived with me in 1979 I was two and I had come here to be diagnosed with a lifelong disability. We arrived from Iran which at the time was in conflict with my new home, America. At the same time, there was a movement that disabled people were partaking in that would impact my life greatly. This movement gave me the chance to attend school through college and it still gives me the opportunity to live an easier life. When I go out to a restaurant, I don’t have to worry about handicap accessible anything. When I go to the mall, I don’t have to worry about whether or not I can get around. When I check into a hotel, most of the time I know that I will get a hotel room that will be conducive to my disability. My life is easier now than it would have been without the movement.
In the ‘70s and ‘80s the United States made a conscious decision to include persons with disabilities like...
As entrepreneurs or business professionals, we have many responsibilities. We are juggling projects, ideas, relationships, and our own personal needs. ESPN released a ten-part documentary on Michael Jordan and the Chicago Bulls. Growing up in the ‘90s almost every boy in my neighborhood had a pair of Jordans. In fact, I received my first pair for eighth grade graduation.
I loved basketball then, and that love has not died. Like so many others, one of my favorite players of all time is Michael Jordan. Even though in 1991 he beat my Lakers, he still remains a favorite. His moves on the court were magical. But, even more magical has been his ability to leverage his basketball stardom into great business success. Over the years, I put time into thinking about exactly how Jordan was able to be so successful. Keep reading. I think the answer may surprise you.
For the last twenty years, I have been looking at what makes someone successful and where...
I recently watched Crip Camp on Netflix. The documentary was about disabled people in the 1970s and 1980s. It featured the life and the political activism. They were fighting for the rights that I have now. I knew that the Americans With Disabilities Act was fairly young. However, I did not realize that it was only the generation before me who made my amazing life easier.
I was born in 1977 and, in 5th grade, I was mainstreamed into a public school where I was the first person in a wheelchair in the district. Throughout high school, I was provided with an assistant and had a robust social life. When I entered college, I had access to a whole department dedicated to students with disabilities. I was provided accommodations for classes and tests. When I go out on the town, the last thing on my mind is whether or not there will be ramps or even if I can use the restroom.
The United States made an important decision that disabled people will be included in life. It’s...
After a mother saw an interview with me, she messaged me and said that even though she appreciates the work that I do, my message does not apply to her son who has a cognitive disability. Her expectations for her son were not realistic. The best advice that I gave her was to readjust her expectations. Otherwise, she would not find peace and happiness.
This got me thinking about my own life and the pandemic. All my life, I have dreamed of what my life would look like if I was not disabled. I would dream of speaking without a speech impediment, driving a car, hiking in Hawaii, giving my kids piggyback rides, and more. Some of these activities are adventurous and some are downright mundane. Oftentimes, I was paralyzed by this idea of perfection. Even when my life was amazing, I said to myself: “This could be so much better if I was not in this body.” Although I still have my moments, my number one goal is to make my life amazing.
Due to the pandemic,...
One of the most important goals that I have is raising my sons, Andrew and Tyler, who are 6 and 5 respectively. As any parent, I want them to do well in school, experience life, have extracurricular activities, have fun, and have the skills necessary to excel in life. As their father, my job is to support and facilitate these goals. Before the pandemic hit, they were involved in many activities including karate, soccer, and piano.
As we all are dealing with the coronavirus, our job as parents has evolved and has become more intense. Before the pandemic, parents relied on teachers, coaches, or even family members to get involved in helping our kids grow. This responsibility has now been thrust more on the parents. In addition, we are all learning how to deal with this amazing situation. It’s easy to enter into survival mode.
One of the keys to success is to be engaged in our goals. This included being more engaged in our kids' lives, especially during these tough times....
The Great Reset
Our lives have slowed down because of the coronavirus. We have the opportunity to reset the way we go about our lives, the way we deal with others, develop new habits, be kinder towards others, and decide how we want to live the rest of our lives. One excuse for not going after our goals is lack of time. That excuse has been dampened by these times. Simultaneously, there is much panic and angst during this pandemic.
The way you act in these times can position yourself in the future. Your actions today will determine your success tomorrow. As James Clear writes about, your life is a lagging indicator of your habits. If you want to improve your life in the future, you have to start living as someone who is already successful.
Other people are watching you right now. They watch how you handle situations. They watch how calm you are. They watch how you complain. If you want to do business, hang out with them, or even date, you must start by showing them that you...
Why We Should Not Try to Overcome the Coronavirus
As we are dealing with the coronavirus, we are starting to turn our attention to what life will look like in the coming months or even years. A misnomer is that we are going to overcome this crisis. We are going to deal with the aftermath of this virus for decades or even generations. This does not mean that life won’t feel normal, or even be better. This only means that life will change and it’s up to us to embrace the change, work with reality, and do our part to improve our lives and the lives of others.
I don’t believe we overcome most challenges. I believe we deal with challenges. I was born with a disability and speak with a severe speech impediment. I understood that my disability would not go away and that I would not overcome it. I started to look at other people and other challenges and saw that, in most cases, people deal with challenges, but do not overcome them. The only challenge...
There are universal principles of success that can be applied in every situation. For almost two decades, I have been studying, hypothesizing, writing, and speaking about the principles of success. Although every situation is different, what’s not different are the principles. The principles of growing a company are the same as dealing with a disability. The same principles of raising kids are the same as losing a few pounds.
We have a brand new challenge. Success is partly defined by the application of these principles. I want to give you a framework to apply some of the principles to deal with the coronavirus.
Working with Reality
There are two parts of reality itself and there is your reaction to reality. Success comes with the positive reaction to reality. The reality that we are in this amazing and tough situation. To be honest, it really sucks. If you fight reality, you will lose. Accepting reality is very important in any kind of situation. If you...