For the last few months, my manager Kristi and I have been talking about our next steps with my speaking and writing career. Kristi has always brought up the fact that I underestimate my struggles as a human being and neither of us has been able to figure out why that was.
Is it because I’m not self-aware? Actually, I am very self-aware. I know myself very well. If I’m having a good day, I know why and vice-versa. Is it because I live in a cocoon where I only understand my own life? I wish that was the case because it’s only when I think about other people’s lives that I say my life is hard. There are days when I wish that I could only look at my own life in a vacuum. Is it the fact that I don’t let anything get to me? Of course not. I have bad days just like everyone else. I throw hissy fits like any other human being. I get frustrated when I can’t do something right.
Then what is the issue? Why do I keep underestimating my struggles?
Here is the conclusion of my Debunking Conventional Wisdom post, in which I provide the top six conventional wisdoms I disagree with and why. Read part one here.
4. Never make excuses. Excuses are a part of life. My definition of an excuse is why something did or did not happen. The fact is that I blame a lot of stuff that I cannot do on my disability, such as if somebody asks me to help them move, I can’t. If you are losing your job, and your boss gives you one more chance, what are you going to do? Are you going to roll over or are you going to throw every excuse in the book to possibly save your job? Be careful because the more excuses you make in life, the less chances that you have to succeed. If I made the excuse that nobody wants to hear a speaker with a speech impediment, I would not be following my calling.
5. Overcoming problems. I was considering naming my next book I Didn’t Overcome Anything. From a branding perspective, I decided I...
Last week I realized what Henry Ford said with his quote, “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.” Some of my thoughts about life and love are not what you might think. In my next two posts, I am going to give you the top six conventional wisdoms I disagree with and why.
Henry Ford famously said, “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.”
I believe life has limits. I can list many things I cannot do. Does that mean I am a pessimist? I like to think that I am a realist. Focusing on things that are near impossible is a waste of time. I know that I can’t be a surgeon. According to Henry, if I believe that I could be a surgeon, I can. Is that healthy? I don’t think so.
With that being said, there have been many things that I thought I could not do. Once I started asking “how,” life opened up to me. There was a period of time when I thought going off to college was impossible. And what seemed impossible became possible once I told myself I could do it, same thing with my speaking and writing career.
I could have said there’s no way someone with a speech impediment could become a speaker; instead, I asked myself is it a possibility? Was there a model that I could...
Every year since 2007, something extraordinary has happened in my career.
2007—Published my book.
2008—My book won two Indie Excellence Awards. One for best business book of the year and one was an honorable mention for best book. Forever I can call myself an award-winning author.
2009—Westlake Today named me Man of the Year.
2010—I received the Soaring Spirit Award from Looking Beyond.
I received an email from the organizers of TEDxPasadena asking me if I would be interested in becoming a TED speaker. I was honored. Of course I wanted to, but there was one caveat. It was just an invitation to be considered for the event.
I filled out the form and sent in a proposal, and last week at 10:15PM, I received an email from Kristi telling me that my proposal was accepted by TEDxPasadena. I am very honored to be speaking on October 22nd of this year, the day after my birthday, which means I have to be a good boy on my birthday. Probably a quiet dinner with my...
As I mentioned in last week’s blog post, I recently went to the National Speakers Association annual meeting. As I was looking at the schedule beforehand, I noticed that Larry Winget would be speaking that weekend. At this discovery, I practically turned into a thirteen-year-old girl finding out that she just got Justin Bieber tickets.
In life, we all have people we look up to. When I was a kid, I looked up to Magic Johnson, Bo Jackson, and other athletes, but now I look up to successful business people–especially those who have made it in the speaking and publishing industry. I definitely look up to people such as Jim Stovall, Brian Tracy, and most of all, Larry.
In 2005, I was giving my first speech as a professional speaker–with my dad serving as my interpreter–to a group of Persian women. It was a few months after I went to my first National Speakers Association meeting and my mentor Frank Miles came to give me a critique. In the hallway, Frank and I were...
I had an incredible week last week. On Friday, my friend Pat and his son David loaded up the car and we went to Anaheim for four days. Pat and David went to Disneyland and I went to my version of Disneyland. I attended another convention of the National Speakers Association.
I love the NSA because years ago, the group told me that I could become a speaker. Before I attended the NSA in the winter of 2004, every time I went to a networking event, people would come up to me and say, Good luck. I hope it all works out. But when I went to that first event, I was encouraged to pursue this line of work and actually received advice. I remember talking to Tim Guard, who gave me advice and the names of other speakers to contact.
My theory on networking conferences and meeting people is like finding a date in the bar. if you go out to a bar dressed nice and have a basic idea of what you want, you might find nothing, but you might find everything you’re looking for. What typically happens...
The last few months I have been taking a quasi-break from work. I decided that I needed a break from the hustle of life and just needed to hang out, take some trips, have long dinners with friends, and breathe.
I found my mind wandering towards many activities that either I cannot do or that take much more effort like getting dressed in three minutes or climbing up stairs. What’s interesting to me is the fact that when I was a kid, these things did not bother me. Yes, they were in the back of my mind, but they didn’t bother me. There have been many recent times when I would obsess over the things I couldn’t do. I felt guilty for having these thoughts because my life has been great the last year. My family is blessed. One of my friends from high school, Arash, just went to Costa Rica. A couple of weeks ago, I was at his house and he was telling a group of friends how beautiful it was. I found myself getting upset because there is no way I could have a trip...
About fourteen months ago, my manager Kristi made me put a date on the calendar to start this blog. For some reason or another I just did not want to start it. I was afraid that I would run out of things to say and I wanted to focus on getting the right tone out there. So, I wrote ten or so blog posts before I posted a single one.
The week I officially launched my blog, I got some incredible news. On Monday, July 19th, my mom called and wanted to talk to both my dad and me; I never heard her so frantic. She is usually calm, but that day she was in shock. When my father got home a couple of hours later, we returned her call together. Long story short, my mom told us that she had won the mega millions lottery. I was shocked. It changed many lives, including family members. It allowed me to move into my new house and it allowed my sister Sanaz to finally be spoiled after she had worked since the age of sixteen. My mom has retired and, as I am writing this, she is on the way to Pilates....
Last week I wrote about what I’m up to.
Over the last year, my business philosophies and the way I think about my company and body of work have changed. Before my family’s windfall, I was trying to make a move that would put myself in the position where I would be miraculously booking many speeches, selling a lot of books, and creating the lifestyle that I want. Immediately after the win, I was so happy to have the cash infusion I needed in order to make my proverbial “big move.”
For whatever reason, I had trouble spending money on my company. I didn’t know why, but something in the back of my mind was saying that I was not ready yet. Maybe part of it was the fear of failure or that I finally had room to breathe. Clearly, I had been holding my breath over the year; I was not ready to go through that again.
We were given a gift and to jump back into the thick of things was a ludicrous idea. Creatively I was on fire. I was writing…a lot. In fact,...