The Coolest Thing I Have Seen in a While

blog Mar 31, 2011

Two nights ago after having dinner with my family and Pat, I called a good friend of mine Artin from college then slid into bed, where I turned on The Daily Show with Jon Stewart. I love comedy and satire. He had on Miguel Nicolelis, a professor from Duke University. They developed a suit that disabled people can put on and simply by thinking–through their brainwaves–a disabled person can walk and move without assistance.

For the last couple of months I have been thinking about movement. I found myself looking at people and seeing how they move. At times it’s hard for me to have body calmness that other people have. At restaurants I see people putting their hands in their laps. What’s ironic is the fact that I sit in my chair that is over $30,000, has cushions and support, and here they are sitting in their chair that costs no more than fifty bucks and they are more comfortable than I am. I also watch people run up stairs, people in crowds navigating their...

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An Argument for Being Neurotic

blog Mar 24, 2011

Andy Grove famously said only the paranoid survive.

For the last couple of weeks, I have been writing about my own need to find some kind of balance in my life. This week I am going to argue against taking it easy.

I always look at the traits of successful people and one thing I notice in most of them is that they do not rest on their laurels. Sure, they take time off, they go have fun, they party. At some point or another, successful people get neurotic, want more, and nothing is enough.

There is no doubt that I get neurotic about my goals and sometimes I go too far. I get that. The fact is that I want to see so much in my lifetime and I accept that it is harder for me than most people. I don’t like it, but I accept it. With that being said, in order for me to succeed, I have to be neurotic. There are some things that are easier for me to do than most people, like writing this blog. I can have a blog post done in half an hour. Okay, enough bragging. On the other hand, there...

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Response to “Taking it Easy”

blog Mar 16, 2011

Last week I put up a blog post called Taking it Easy. First, let me report that right after I put up the post, I sent Kristi home early, turned on the USC game, shut off my computer, and went to lunch with my mom. Admittedly, maybe watching the Lakers game was not the best way to relax, because I become more neurotic during intense games. If they actually won the game instead of losing it, I would be more relaxed.

I received a comment on my post criticizing me for missing the mark:

Guess what… you are missing something right now! Not sure what it is but you are indeed missing it; that is how life works. I thought you were a marketing major? You should understand that human desires and emotions can be shaped and formed based upon perception versus reality. How many folks buy a new car thinking it will make them happier, sexier, etc? I read your book “Love Your Life…” and the one thing that struck me about you is your craving need and active search for what...

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Taking It Easy

blog Mar 10, 2011

From the beginning of the year until now, I have been tough on myself to say the least. My best friend for 25 years, Patrick, says that I work too hard. I like working. I never think I am working hard enough. I think I put more pressure on myself than anybody does on me. I had to learn patience, and to tell you the truth, I am not a patient person. That’s not a good thing for someone who’s disabled. I always want to figure out a problem right away. To sum up, I am neurotic at times but I guess all successful people are neurotic.

I often get mad at myself for not tweeting enough, Facebook-ing enough, not reading enough articles, not having enough fun, not looking for a girlfriend, not connecting with enough people, and I am just exhausted dictating this sentence. I need to relax!

In the last two months, I have completed a manuscript of my autobiography, moved out of my parents’ house and into my own, gone to Vegas with Patrick, and except for winter break, have not...

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Update

blog Mar 03, 2011

Most days when Kristi comes in, we talk about my next steps as a writer, a speaker, and business owner. She is a writer herself and has a marketing background. When we got back into the thick of things early in January, I said that I wanted to be more methodical. I shared with her an idea I was playing with in the back of my mind and immediately she said, You’re writing it.

At the time, I did not know if it would be a book or an article, or just a blog post. But as it turns out, I started writing the second version of my autobiography and this Monday I finished it. I am emotionally exhausted and over the last 10 years I have really grown as a writer. This version is very mature compared to my earlier one, which was just anecdotal; this version is more reflective. I reflect on my disability, love, life, and how I see the world.

It’s also very raw and that’s why I’m exhausted. I am also very invigorated because I saw how far I’ve come in my 33 years. I am...

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10 Things You Don’t Necessarily Need To Know

blog Feb 24, 2011

From the beginning of this year until now, my blog posts have had a very serious tone. So today I decided to have a little bit of fun and give you a glimpse into my personality with 10 random facts about me that have nothing to do with anything. 1. My favorite fiction book is The Beach House by James Patterson. 2. I have watched Coming to America, Big, The Princess Bride and Major League II each over 75 times. 3. I have gone to Vegas at least five times with under 24 hour notice on a whim or because I had a bad day. 4. I can eat pizza every day if I had to. 5. I once towed two wagons full of neighborhood kids with my wheelchair back in the 90s. 6. My friends often get me out of my chair to dance on my feet when we go out. 7. My friend Jerry got mad at me because I forgot my handicap sign one night and remarked jokingly, why do you think we hang out with you? 8. I am a computer nerd. 9. I am proud to be a mama’s boy and if you met my mom, you’d understand why. 10. I have...

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Valentine’s Day

blog Feb 14, 2011

This week is Valentine’s week and some people think that this holiday was somehow concocted by the gift industry. I am not going to look up the origins of Valentine’s Day because I have a packed day and just don’t feel like it. Too honest? (It’s a blog, get over it!)

I am 33 and if you have been keeping up with this blog, then you know I’m having a strong desire to find love. I always thought of myself as a romantic. Heck, my book is called “Love Your Life and It Will Love You Back.” A clue? I feel that it is time for me to start looking for romance. I just moved into my first house and before this, I always came up with the excuse that I am not ready because I don’t have my business where I want it or my living conditions are not ideal, but with the great windfall that my family went through, those excuses are gone. In fact, one of the biggest factors that influenced me moving out of my parent’s house and into my own place was...

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Advice on How to Achieve Your Goals — Part 2

blog Feb 11, 2011

In the last few weeks when I was thinking about my own goals, I really tried to swallow my own medicine, buy what I was selling, or whatever cliché you want to put in there. I looked at my own behavior and tried to make as formal as possible. First, on the girlfriend front, I decided to email no less and no more than three girls every day my manager comes in. Also, I pick out three articles and have Kristi put them into a Word document so I can read them later as opposed to just saying “yeah, I should do this or that.”

The surreal part of all this is the fact that since I put my first blog post up earlier this month, I felt a duty to do everything on the list. Because I put it out on the Internet, I feel an obligation not only to myself but to everybody that reads my blog to keep my word. It’s not that I owe you any explanation but I just feel more accountable this way. It’s weird, I know. As a matter of fact, after I put the first blog post up, I got...

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Advice on How to Achieve Your Goals — Part 1

blog Feb 02, 2011

For the last couple weeks I have been talking about goals. I started by defining my own goals for 2011 and then followed up by looking at the problems people face on the way to achieving their goals. So, I decided not to leave you guys hanging by giving you everything that could go wrong with your goals and give you some words of encouragement towards achieving them.

The main thread of these three blog posts is the fact that goal setting and goal achievement needs to be more methodical and structured. It is paramount to make the goal as tangible as possible. Make the goal real really ask yourself why do I want to achieve this goal…what impact would it have if I actually achieved the goal? One of the most common New Year’s resolutions is to lose weight. Great goal, right? But what would actually achieving that goal mean to a person? Would that mean that they could fit in their favorite jeans? If so, why not put those jeans out where you could see them every single day?...

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Why Goals Fall Flat

blog Jan 25, 2011

Last week I posted my New Year’s resolutions and ever since I posted that, I’ve been thinking about why most New Year’s resolutions fail.  I have been going through in my head my own behaviors as well as the behaviors of people that I know.  I tried to talk to as many people as I can about their successes and their obstacles; as much as I give you my own stories in my books and in this blog, I want to see if my random thoughts are unique to my situation or if they apply to a vast array of people. (I try to write about issues that apply to most situations.)

When people set goals one of the issues is that they bite off more than they can chew.   It’s great to have long term goals.  In fact, I think that the more long term thinking you have, the more likely you are to achieve your goals.  With that said, people don’t break down their goals.  Sometimes they don’t even know where to begin.  When you have a lofty...

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